2 Sides to the Same Coin
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2 Sides to the Same Coin
Addiction and compulsion often has two sides. These sides could be called craving and aversion. Should and shouldn’t. These two sides show up as the belief in a command/craving/urge to engage and the command /aversion/revulsion not to engage in the addictive or compulsive activity. This belief in both, equally, binds one. Each side tends accentuate the other. In working with people I see this again and again. It’s interesting because many feel that just the craving is the “problem”.
Some examples of this are to be found with people who have addictions to porn and in those with bulimia. With porn addiction people generally crave things like relief, escape, excitement, orgasm, and ecstasy while feeling nasty, dirty, disgusted, and hopeless about it. With Bulemia the craving and aversion are somewhat built into the compulsion – binging and purging. The binging is often accompanied by thoughts like “I want to eat as much as I want” and “I’m going to get what I want”. Feelings like longing and wanting comfort are there too. The purging is then often accompanied by the fear of getting fat, guilt, and shame.
Some examples of this are to be found with people who have addictions to porn and in those with bulimia. With porn addiction people generally crave things like relief, escape, excitement, orgasm, and ecstasy while feeling nasty, dirty, disgusted, and hopeless about it. With Bulemia the craving and aversion are somewhat built into the compulsion – binging and purging. The binging is often accompanied by thoughts like “I want to eat as much as I want” and “I’m going to get what I want”. Feelings like longing and wanting comfort are there too. The purging is then often accompanied by the fear of getting fat, guilt, and shame.
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