Blossom717

I left....and this time there is no going back.

It was getting weird. I can't prove that he was drinking or doing drugs but he had to have been taking pain pills. He told the sitter that everyone was watching me. Then he told me he ordered a .357 (gun) for protection for us. after I mentioned the fact that we had enough loaded guns for each room to have one, he said that I could just use the .357 to off him then.

After that remark, which he said in front of our dd, he told me he had installed 2 go-pro cameras to watch me. I'm sure he is bs-ing but it was weird.

The final straw last night was him calling me a "******* lunatic" and other things in front of our daughter. I ended up having to call the police to get him to let me leave with her.

I made an appointment at the courthouse today for a custody hearing, and I'm trying to find a lawyer but no one will call me back! I activated a prepaid phone since his parents pay for my iphone, I would understand if they cut off service.


Anyway, he called me at 8:56 am to tell me he would be at the court house at 9 am with his lawyer, but i needed to give him directions on how to get to the courthouse. yea....no. The house is about 30 minutes away. so he wasn't going. and really, he expected me to give him directions to the courthouse??


I can see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel...but I can also see all the mounds of crap I'm gonna have to climb over to get to the light! prayers please! i just had to vent!

Sungrl

I have the upmost faith in you. I am so sorry it came to head like this, but it usually always does. He sounds very paranoid and, installing cameras to watch
you is creepy.

Keep making phone calls and keep ignoring him. You will be fine. Just use your resources and keep your head together. Good Luck!

amy55

big, big, big (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) blossom.

Is he in jail right now, were the guns confiscated? Are you in a safe place right now?

That wasn't a "vent", that was his sickness coming out.

Stung

I have a GoPro…unless he's changing the battery in them every 90 minutes those things aren't going to do jack. So that's a big ol' QUACK a doodle do.

He sounds like he's trying hard to engage you.

I hope that your custody hearing went well. Sending hugs!

AnvilheadII

that sounds scary. and i'm glad you and your daughter are not in a home with an unstable person with access to multiple weapons. you must take your safety VERY seriously. do not go back to that house without proper escort. do not spend time arguing or trying to get him to understand.

Hockeyerik

Keep yourself safe blossom. He sounds like he's gone off the deep end a bit. If you feel unsafe it probably means you are in an unsafe situation. Good for you for removing you and DD. Hugs and peace.

amy55

Please call the DV hotline 800-799-SAFE (7233), they can help. Talk to the DV advocate at the courthouse. He has guns, they are loaded. Keep yourself and your daughter safe''.

You never know what someone in that state of mind will do.

amy55

I can't stress enough to get to a DV shelter. He can't get in there. Please take care of you and your sweet little daughter. Think of that farmhouse that you want to buy. But for now, treat this as an extremely dangerous situation and do the most that you can to protect yourself.

Also DV has pro bono attorneys.

((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

Just remember he can also take a gun out of the house and search for you and your daughter

WendyOR

With comments such as those, and loaded weapons, can you get a restraining order?

Stay safe. You are doing the right thing. Do not answer one of his calls or texts, as it will engage you into his sickness. Please be safe. Just keep focusing on you and your little one. He is a big boy and will have to handle things on his end.

dandylion

Blossom....please don't minimize the danger. I think that you need to be aware that things are about as dangerous as they can get. He is under the influence and paranoid. He has easy access of loaded guns. He is angry that you are leaving--thus he is losing control.
And, he is angry.

It is essential that you take every safety precaution!!!

Call the domestic violence center for help and advice. Your boyfriend will not be allowed to know. You are not under any obligation and your identity is protected.

dandylion

Cathryn2001

Thinking of you, Blossom, with lots of prayers!

Timeiskey

Big HUGS Blossom. I will be thinking and praying for you.

jarp

Oh Bloosom, I'm sorry it's come to this, I know you were conflicted anyway, but it must have been an awful situation with the police and I know that you wanted it all to work out differently to this.

You are doing the right thing, number 1 is your and your dd's safety. It sounds as though he is escalating....and knowing what I know about weed, it can do terrible things to a persons mind.

Take good care and check in with us, I'm thinking of you. You are being very brave.

Rosiepetal

Praying for you.
Hugs.

GracieLou

Everything is going to be okay.

Thumper

Wow. Stay safe as everyone else has said and do not engage with him. No explaining or arguing - things could get very scary very fast.

Thinking of you and you handled things so well by leaving. Good luck with the custody hearing.

Blossom717

I can't get a protective order because I have no evidence of recent or current abuse. I will call the DV hotline today, thank you for the tip Amy!

We are okay now, at my moms. I feel a lot lighter because I am not going home to his circus but I know its a long road ahead. the appointment for custody isn't until September 17th. That is what I'm worried about right now, is him trying to take her. Since there is not custody arrangement he can take her and not give her back, but I can do the same.

He wants to see her, so I told him to meet us at a mcdonalds in town this evening. I have to get a police escort to go with me to get my things Saturday. He called yesterday and said that it wasn't necessary, but at this point I don't trust him saying that.

I found a good lender to work on the house with (the last one was giving me the run around) and I bought a prepaid cellphone incase the iphone I have with his parents gets cut off. I documented what happened Monday night but I don't have witnesses to the things he said about the gun and the cameras.

I am leaving this to my higher power. I didn't know what that meant until yesterday. I kept thinking that I have to just give up to let him handle it. I realized in the car yesterday that letting go and letting god means that I have faith that as long as I am doing what I am supposed to do, that God will be there to protect us.

Florence

ladyscribbler

Thanks for letting us know you're safe. Thinking of you and your precious daughter. Hugs.

Santa

You are under no obligation to do something because he wants it. Last time you saw him he called you filthy names and threatened you in front of your child. You need not jump to his tune because he says he wants to see her.

Please do call the DV hotline before making any move to meet up. As the police had to come before you were allowed by your abuser to leave your house, I think you likely DO qualify for a protection from abuse order.