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Hi and welcome dianeladd
for me the best cure was not drinking, and a little time.
I had to accept I couldn't change a second of my past.
I tried to be a good sober person and do good things for myself and others, and gradually I realised I really *was* a good person - a good, decent, person who'd been addicted.
I was able to forgive myself, eventually - I hope you will too. You'll find a lot of support here - welcome
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for me the best cure was not drinking, and a little time.
I had to accept I couldn't change a second of my past.
I tried to be a good sober person and do good things for myself and others, and gradually I realised I really *was* a good person - a good, decent, person who'd been addicted.
I was able to forgive myself, eventually - I hope you will too. You'll find a lot of support here - welcome
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Join Date: Aug 2014
Location: Tokyo
Posts: 4
Thanks. I was doing ok in the UK after doing a program for a few weeks. But just before I came back to Japan I just started all my boozin and messed up rubbish again. My wife fiancé found out again and she was so hurt. I just feel terrible as she has tried so hard to help me and forgive me and I just keep doing the same stuff
I think actions speak loud than words.
I made promises loads of times...people got fed up...but when people could see I'd changed, without me making a big deal of it, then things began to shift a little.
Trust and forgiveness need to be earned back - that takes a little time...and it's their timetable, not ours
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I made promises loads of times...people got fed up...but when people could see I'd changed, without me making a big deal of it, then things began to shift a little.
Trust and forgiveness need to be earned back - that takes a little time...and it's their timetable, not ours
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after a while sober we take pleasure in the fact that
we have been good moral ones for several years now
and
have not added to the wreckage of our past
it is something to be grateful for
MountainmanBob
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Join Date: May 2014
Location: liverpool, england
Posts: 1,708
it takes a long time to learn new habits, but they have to have a start.
so from today onwards just try to not repeat what your doing, just do it for one day and see how you feel, if you like yourself a bit better then do it again and again and again in the end you will of started a new habit of not hurting people you love but you have to make a firm stand to at least try
so from today onwards just try to not repeat what your doing, just do it for one day and see how you feel, if you like yourself a bit better then do it again and again and again in the end you will of started a new habit of not hurting people you love but you have to make a firm stand to at least try
I agree with what everyone else is saying.
Actions speak louder than words. Get some sober time under your belt, reanalyze your life then, I'm sure others will notice your efforts.
After spending so much time in the bottle, lying to the ones we love and being robed of life's good times while drinking, there is nothing better than being sober.
Good luck, you dont have to drink again if you decide not to. The power is yours.
Actions speak louder than words. Get some sober time under your belt, reanalyze your life then, I'm sure others will notice your efforts.
After spending so much time in the bottle, lying to the ones we love and being robed of life's good times while drinking, there is nothing better than being sober.
Good luck, you dont have to drink again if you decide not to. The power is yours.
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