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Old 08-13-2014, 02:00 AM
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Do we live in a Bubble?

So today is Day 3.

I feel a hell of a lot better. I even listened to Music last night and laughed at Family Guy with someone else. It seems that I have not done that for so long.

I went for a long walk around town and past all of the bars last night and it was strange. Not because of people drinking. Its just everyone seemed to have friends. I used to have lots of friends. How did that change and I feel so lonely? With no friends.

I guess we bring it on ourselves. But, we cannot see it happening.

I guess we live in a bubble.
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Old 08-13-2014, 03:45 AM
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I guess we get into the bubble of alcoholism, my time was spent facilitating my drinking every day, so much energy and effort put in to something that didn't produce anything worthwhile in my life.

Though I always look at it with hope, because if I was that innovative in hiding and disposing of bottles, rotating liquor stores and forward planning all the time to ensure I had enough alcohol in my house at all times.

If I focused that same energy and effort into my life now, just think of the things we can now achieve!!
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Old 08-13-2014, 03:50 AM
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Thanks PurpleKnight.

It takes up so much of your life. I am an Alcoholic and a binge drinker. Can go for a couple of days without it. But, 1 drink and then it's 4 days later. I can't remember most of it. Hurt everyone I know. Borrowed money from people. Taken Cocaine sometimes. It just seems crazy that one drink can lead to that.
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Old 08-13-2014, 03:53 AM
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I guess we live in a bubble.
when drinking I was not living a good moral life -- that's for sure

possibly I was stuck in a bubble of sin -- rather call it the pit of hell

thought I was having fun == _ucked up nuisance

now -- please -- find some healthy sober things to spend your time on

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Thanks Bob.

I was thinking of getting into the gym. Yoga (not that I am very bendy). That sort of thing.

Plus I picked my guitar up yesterday for the first time in years.

Good luck my friend.
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If I focused that same energy and effort into my life now, just think of the things we can now achieve!!
Thank you Purpleknight for these inspiring words on a rainy morning
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Old 08-13-2014, 04:18 AM
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one of things i had to try to come to see is that being without booze could be a fun way to live life
but it means i have to start to do things in my life that dont include booze but can be fun it certainly isn't boring or glum being sober but thats because i have a full day ahead of me,so i am busy

of course i could always sit indoors and do nothing but watch the clock tick away and think this sober life is rubbish or i can get off my backside and start to live out in the world without drink

it certainly isnt easy as i have to over come so many personal fears, but thats what i have to do and when i have faced fears they go away

so enjoy being sober if nothing else it beats waking up the next day in a wet bed and trying to remember what i did last night etc for me
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Thanks Bob.

I was thinking of getting into the gym.
I don't go to the gym much lately
but, I know how much my wife enjoys it (she's been a regular for 20 years)
the gym makes her feel better not only mentally but also physically
I know because it truly shows when she does not go

when I was going to the gym more often I could not help but notice
new ones to exercise coming in and in a short period of time
nicer looking bodies with big smiles on their faces
one can not argue with that

today I prefer to ride bicycles mixed with some light hiking
exercising and being outdoors carries with it some special pleasures

wishing for you a blessed healthy day
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I don't go to the gym much lately
but, I know how much my wife enjoys it (she's been a regular for 20 years)
the gym makes her feel better not only mentally but also physically
I know because it truly shows when she does not go

when I was going to the gym more often I could not help but notice
new ones to exercise coming in and in a short period of time
nicer looking bodies with big smiles on their faces
one can not argue with that

today I prefer to ride bicycles mixed with some light hiking
exercising and being outdoors carries with it some special pleasures

wishing for you a blessed healthy day
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Thank you for your kind comments.

Addicted to gym sounds better and cheaper!
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Thanks desypete,

Strange trying to find things to do things Sober. Especially as I have lost all of my friends because of Alcohol!

What do you do on your own??!!!
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Thanks desypete,

Strange trying to find things to do things Sober. Especially as I have lost all of my friends because of Alcohol!

What do you do on your own??!!!
what would you like to do ?

do you like sport ? join a club with like minded people you will make friends there who share your interest

do you like to paint ? join an art class at college or whatever you will make friends there who share you interest

do you like mountain climbing ? go kart racing ?

find out what you like to do and give it a try

for me i found in aa many good friends and we go out from time to time for meals or to the pictures etc
one of my friends in aa has the same passion for snooker like i have so we met up once or twice a week for snooker

so for me i found all my new friends in aa and i have kids to so i do things with them like go karting its great fun

sadly i lost one of my kids 2 years ago so it stopped all my activies i was doing but i am slowly getting back out there
i go to aa meetings mostly and i try to help other people out as that is so good for me and my soul

there are lots of things you can do just make a list of what you like to do and see how you can make it happen for you

good luck
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I live in a flat.
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Old 08-14-2014, 06:11 AM
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I used to drink and when I did I had lots of "friends"... I realized quickly that they were more bar buddies then friends once I quit drinking. .. When no one came around to check on me when I stopped showing up everyday. .. When I quit my job. .. When I left town. .. no one came. . No one cared.

You will learn quickly that the people who matter will still be there. You will make new friendships that do not revolve around the bar. They will be real and meaningful. Just give it some time.
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