Don't Know What To Do
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Don't Know What To Do
Hey,
I kinda feel like an addict myself sometimes, like I'm addicted to the drama and craziness. Introducing myself made me think of that...
I am a 23 year old woman, I am married to a wonderful man. He is also 23. We've been together for 7 years, married for 2. His mother is an alcoholic. We live with her so we can help take care of her children. She has two younger daughters, 10 and 12. (She'll be 13 this month) We've dealt with her alcoholism since forever, since I'v been apart of the family. My husband tells me he doesn't remember a time his mother didn't drink. There is no father or man involved with her.
The reason I decided to join today, and maybe ask for advice (I may regret that later) is because she went out yesterday. Now, she very rarely goes out. She normally drinks at home. But she went out yesterday with a new female friend, who is also an alcoholic and she didn't come home last night. Now, I've read a bunch of things and it seems that happens all the time. But, its never happened to me, and I'm having a hard time with it. Especially because shes got two beautiful daughters at home that will be awake soon and I don't know what to tell them. I don't know whether I should report it or not. I just don't know what the right thing to do it.
Thanks for reading.
I kinda feel like an addict myself sometimes, like I'm addicted to the drama and craziness. Introducing myself made me think of that...
I am a 23 year old woman, I am married to a wonderful man. He is also 23. We've been together for 7 years, married for 2. His mother is an alcoholic. We live with her so we can help take care of her children. She has two younger daughters, 10 and 12. (She'll be 13 this month) We've dealt with her alcoholism since forever, since I'v been apart of the family. My husband tells me he doesn't remember a time his mother didn't drink. There is no father or man involved with her.
The reason I decided to join today, and maybe ask for advice (I may regret that later) is because she went out yesterday. Now, she very rarely goes out. She normally drinks at home. But she went out yesterday with a new female friend, who is also an alcoholic and she didn't come home last night. Now, I've read a bunch of things and it seems that happens all the time. But, its never happened to me, and I'm having a hard time with it. Especially because shes got two beautiful daughters at home that will be awake soon and I don't know what to tell them. I don't know whether I should report it or not. I just don't know what the right thing to do it.
Thanks for reading.
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Alcoholism is a progressive disease. It's quite likely once she starts this behavior it may become more common. You said she is with a female friend, so it may be the friend was the trigger for all of this.
My children are ages 8 and 14 currently. I just recently divorced my X husband who is an alcoholic. I will say that things got a lot better with my children when I stopped covering up for his bad behavior and educated them on alcoholism and the boundaries they need to keep in place for themselves, and how to protect themselves (a big example, not getting in a car with their father or anyone who has been drinking). I took them to counseling and also we attended Celebrate Recovery. A lot of the Celebrate Recoverys have age appropriate groups for children.
Good luck and God Bless to you for helping her children.
My children are ages 8 and 14 currently. I just recently divorced my X husband who is an alcoholic. I will say that things got a lot better with my children when I stopped covering up for his bad behavior and educated them on alcoholism and the boundaries they need to keep in place for themselves, and how to protect themselves (a big example, not getting in a car with their father or anyone who has been drinking). I took them to counseling and also we attended Celebrate Recovery. A lot of the Celebrate Recoverys have age appropriate groups for children.
Good luck and God Bless to you for helping her children.
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