kkallday21

I don't even know why? I just woke up with sadness.. Please offer me some words of wisdom to help me get through today... I have 20 days NC ..

GardenMama

Do something to get out of your head, your normal routine. Go to a museum, see a movie, do something you wouldn't ordinarily do. A change of scenery even in the same city can do a heart wonders. Physical activity helps a lot, too. Just don't sit and dwell on sadness. You are doing great with the NC, now take care of yourself in a pampering or adventuring sort of way.

Ann

Sad days don't last forever, maybe plan something nice to do tomorrow...a special lunch, a walk in nature, hair and nails? Anything that will pick you up and take your mind someplace happier.

Hope this passes soon. The difference between a bad day and a good day is usually about 2 days.

Hugs

zoso77

When that happens to me, I do whatever I need to do to distract myself. Going to the gym helps. So does playing guitar or (strangely) playing GTA 5. Anything to change the channel in my head...

But, you've survived the day. Which is sometimes all you can do.

chicory

Hope you are doing alright KKallday. its tough sometimes, but not all the time. keep busy, learn something new, even if its only online. pretty soon, it will be easier. just get back in the habit of doing what makes you happy, not someone else.
hugs.

kkallday21

Thank you everyone. Your words and thoughts are what got me through.. I love this site and am very grateful for each of you. We will continue moving forward together xoxo
21 days NC!!

Ann

Now see? It's two days later and already you are feeling better.

Sometimes we have to distract ourselves to keep from obsessing, that's not denial that's taking care of ourselves. And what better way to distract ourself than to be with other healthy people (like friends or at a meeting), or doing something we enjoy.

We're cheering you on and walking with you.

Hugs

Amysad

Kkallday - 3 weeks for me - I know what your going through - it is very hard - I can't tell you what will make you feel better because I haven't found it myself but I can tell you when I start to get sad I think of all the drama and lies and nonsense and while I mourn my daughter I do NOT mourn the addict in her place. Perspective is an important thing. Keep talking to us at SR - prayers to you

overit263

No contact is the best thing you can do. I know it's hard to imagine all of the nasty things that you are missing out on by not giving into dealing with the addict, but I'm here to tell you, I got enough nastiness from my ex last night for both of us. You are doing the right thing. Stick with it, you won't be disappointed, it's the healthy thing to do!