patricia68

Today I finally talked to my husband and told him I am an alcoholic. He was very understanding. All these months being too scared of his reaction, and he was actually so supportive!

I am hoping that now that he knows the true I will finally stop relapsing.

Admitting and accepting my addiction feels really liberating. I feel at peace in a weird way.

trachemys

Congratulations, and welcome to SR.

fini

you took a big step, Patricia.
yes, admitting and accepting were liberating for me, too.--

resolute50

Let the healing begin, Patricia.
That's awesome.

CAPTAINZING2000

Were you hiding your drinking?

patricia68

Yes, I always told him I was drinking an occasional glass of wine...just a weekend treat, you know, trying to sound all casual. And then I would hide the empty bottles

neferkamichael

Patricia you are FANTASTIC, sounds like to me you'll quit, rootin for ya.

Ready2beSober

Congratulations! Thats wonderful that he was so supportive and not judgemental.when I admitted to the people close to me that I was an alcoholic I learned that some of them already knew (even though I didnt) sounds like you'll have a alot of support at home to finally quit, that's great!

1newcreation

Welcome on board! That's nice that have loved 1 that's supportive. Wish I did but that's ok coz I can stand on my own 2 feet again plus my recovery will speak for itself later on to them. There's great outreach on SR for this malady we have

Dee74

I'm glad you lifted that burden off yourself

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SlickRick07

Congrats and welcome. Its a journey worth taking.

Wastinglife

I have been in recovery for 3 years after doing a stint in rehab. No one except my family and an ex-gf knew I was in rehab. I have slowly been connecting with old friends again now that I am sober. In the last 6 months I have told 3 or 4 old friends that I was an alcoholic and in recovery. They were all very supportive and not at all surprised haha.

It does really help when you unburden yourself of the constant struggle to hide an addiction.

leviathan

this was my biggest step. SO hard to drop the pride. It really does take some fortitude to do it. some never ever can. proud of you. if your spouse is at all like mine, you will have an ally, instead of someone to hide from.

after the sober thing, i still use my initial "coming out" as an example to myself of how good it feels to tell the truth about many things. so used to stuffing my feelings, that i have to remind myself that i have the right to be who i am. i kinda lost that for awhile.

leviathan

oh yeah... the most recent friend i told was a holdout for me. we're both philosophic, and have never had a lack of things to converse about. But... the booze and beer were always part of the deal, so i was reluctant. we were talking about getting together soon (he lives up-state) so i figured i might as well spill the beans no, instead of on the way to the damn liquor store.

-and he says things that are nothing but supportive! just like everyone else that i love! -also told me how he is struggling with cutting back a bit. i realized he would probably not have normally told me that. i left HIM an opening.

patricia68

Thank you so much for all the replies and encouragement.

Every time I come here after a relapse someone usually asks me what am I going to do different this time? I think being honest with my husband and asking him for help is something I should have done long time ago.

I finally did it tonight and this is what I am doing different this time. No more hiding.

I have faith for the first time in months that I can recover now, because I don't have to pretend I'm a "normal" drinker anymore.

I am not "normal"...and I'm ok with that

PurpleKnight

Fantastic!!

HeadLump

That was a hugely brave step to take - and will ultimately make for a happier life for both of you I'm so pleased you took the plunge and did it!