happyfree2525

Starting over, new sobriety date 7/31/2014

PurpleKnight

Hey happyfree, go at it again you'll get there!!

What's the new plan? are you getting enough support? etc

You can do this!!

happyfree2525

I am considering going to AA, but cannot get over being too embarrassed to go. Also have the husband who does not think I have a problem. So not sure how to go about this but I am here hoping to read posts and figure out what to do.

Serenidad

Good for you for not giving up! You can do this!!! :-)

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ScottFromWI

Welcome HappyFree. Here's how I'd suggest going about the 2 questions you have above.

1. Just go to AA. Your embarrassment is unfounded, everyone is there for the exact same reason you will be so just go. Good things will happen.

2. Worry about your problem rather than what your husband thinks about it. You are the one with the problem after all, not him. You can certainly have conversations about it with him, but you will have to accept the fact that he may never truly understand alcoholism....it's hard enough to grasp/accept it ourselves. He could come to open meetings with you or al-anon too if he was interested in learning more.

Sobriety is yours for the taking - but you have to take concrete actions, and some of them will not be comfortable at first.

awholenewlife52

You can do this, happyfree. Thinking of you.

Anna

I hope that you do whatever it takes for you to get and stay sober.

Serenidad

I just posted this on another page but thought it might help you. :-) I only have ONE short week but all of the things I listed are really helping! I'm literally taking it ONE day at a time!

Here are some of the things I have been doing that are helping: (in no particular order)
1. SR (this website) I have been posting a lot and getting great support and also reading other peoples posts.
2. AVRT (Addictive Voice Recognition Technique)
3. AA meetings
4. Urge Surfing (just Google it) You can also look it up on YouTube and they have a great 9 minute meditation that helps with cravings.
5. Making sure I eat 3 healthy meals per day (low fat, low sugar)
6. Avoiding caffeine and nicotine
7. Exercising (power walking or biking) 30-60 min per day. This makes me feel GREAT after I'm done! :-)
8. Drinking lots and LOTS of water
9. Taking naps if I need them
10. Getting at least 8 hours of sleep per night
11. Distraction (Netflix, taking kids to movie, walking dog, cooking a new recipe etc etc)
12. Praying
13. Calling or texting sober people
14. Trying to avoid stress, anxiety or anger (which are ALL big triggers for me).
15. Not making any big decisions right now
16. Not changing anything right now
17. Putting my sobriety first (if the house is a mess...it's a mess)
18. Made a list of bad consequences of my drinking
19. Made a list of goals that are only attainable if I stay sober and will make me happy (creating hope for myself)
20. Made a list of the reasons I want to quit drinking

I'm sure there are more but little by little I am doing these things. I really just trying to be gentle and kind to myself right now. I'm treating myself as if I am recovering from an "illness"....which I am.....it's called alcoholism. Best of luck.

We can do this!!!

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happyfree2525

Thank you all so much for the kind words of encouragement, I am going to listen to the advice I am getting and give your suggestions a try. I know for a fact, is that what I am doing alone is not working!! I am sure it will be uncomfortable at first, but unless I try I will never know right. Thank you all so much!!

Hevyn

Proud of you for not giving up and starting fresh. We know you can have a whole new beginning.

Dee74

hey happyfree2525

I hope you will take some of the great ideas here on board...nothing changes if nothing changes...how great would it be if the 31st of July was the last time you ever had to feel like this?

D