My worst day sober
A Day at a Time
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Grand Rapids MI
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My worst day sober
The last couple of weeks have definitely been my worst days sober. To see your child suffer and die is horrible beyond description.
What I have been thinking about is I made the statement. "My worst day sober is better than my best day drunk." I have been thinking is this really true or am I blindly reciting slogans I have heard a hundred times.
How could the loss of your child be better than drinking?
After some real thought here is my answer. Yes it is better. It is better because it has an end. Will life be very hard for a very long time? The answer is yes. The important thing I have come to realize is a very long time is not forever. Each day will get a little bit better. Will the whole in my heart ever totally heal? No it will not but it will become something I can deal with because of the other blessings in my life.
Alcoholism has only one end and that is death either directly or indirectly. There is no good outcome. Each day gets worse. Each day you give more things away. Your loved ones, your health, your self esteem, your freedom, your independence, and a million others things you love and cherish.
So the answer is. MY WORST DAY SOBER IS MUCH BETTER THAN MY BEST DAY AS AN ACTIVE ALCOHOLIC
What I have been thinking about is I made the statement. "My worst day sober is better than my best day drunk." I have been thinking is this really true or am I blindly reciting slogans I have heard a hundred times.
How could the loss of your child be better than drinking?
After some real thought here is my answer. Yes it is better. It is better because it has an end. Will life be very hard for a very long time? The answer is yes. The important thing I have come to realize is a very long time is not forever. Each day will get a little bit better. Will the whole in my heart ever totally heal? No it will not but it will become something I can deal with because of the other blessings in my life.
Alcoholism has only one end and that is death either directly or indirectly. There is no good outcome. Each day gets worse. Each day you give more things away. Your loved ones, your health, your self esteem, your freedom, your independence, and a million others things you love and cherish.
So the answer is. MY WORST DAY SOBER IS MUCH BETTER THAN MY BEST DAY AS AN ACTIVE ALCOHOLIC
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MIR- there is beauty in integrity, and you maintained that precious calling as loving father, available in every way for your darling girl. Let that comfort you greatly, as it did her. I thank God that you found recovery.
You are in many hearts, thoughts , and prayers.
You are in many hearts, thoughts , and prayers.
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Ireland
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Hey man, I can't even begin to contemplate what you've just gone through over these last few weeks, the lose of a child must be simply awful.
But for you to still be so positive and resilient in your Sobriety, inspiring doesn't even do it justice, that word gets used a lot, but this is a whole other level of inspiration, your words are amazing, a light amongst the darkness!!
If someone asked me what do I want to achieve in my Sobriety? at this moment in time I'd say I aspire to what MIR has got, because that is the real deal, no doubt about it!!
My thoughts are with you and your whole family at this very difficult time!!
But for you to still be so positive and resilient in your Sobriety, inspiring doesn't even do it justice, that word gets used a lot, but this is a whole other level of inspiration, your words are amazing, a light amongst the darkness!!
If someone asked me what do I want to achieve in my Sobriety? at this moment in time I'd say I aspire to what MIR has got, because that is the real deal, no doubt about it!!
My thoughts are with you and your whole family at this very difficult time!!
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I'm so sorry for your loss, but your words are truly inspiring. You are an amazing person for staying so strong even in your darkest hour.
I don't have the words, I wish I did, but just know we are here to support you. You'll be in my prayers. Thank you for the inspiration.
I don't have the words, I wish I did, but just know we are here to support you. You'll be in my prayers. Thank you for the inspiration.
A Day at a Time
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Location: Grand Rapids MI
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FYI, Don't think that that the thought of drinking has not occurred multiple times. I'm an alcoholic and these are thoughts alcoholics have. Drinking is my default solution to everything but I managed to always remember where I had come from and never ever wanted to go back to
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MIR... You are truly an inspiration for all of us. Many people would take what you've gone through and use it an excuse to pick up. Thank you for being here with us and I want to say again that you have my deepest and most sincere sympathy at this most difficult time.
Peace and Blessings,
Laura
Peace and Blessings,
Laura
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
For being here.
For setting an example & standard.
For showing me I can do this no matter what is happening around me.
You are inspiring beyond words & belief.
Thank you.
For being here.
For setting an example & standard.
For showing me I can do this no matter what is happening around me.
You are inspiring beyond words & belief.
Thank you.
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