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Old 07-22-2014, 03:13 PM
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Dreaded relapse

Another relapse just as I thought I was changing my ways. I had been walking and cycling almost everyday for about 5 days. I really felt positive for once in a long time, I hadn't been a cycle in about 20 years.
I managed 5 weeks at the beginning of the year. Now I cant even manage a few days. I knew I had my binge planned for the football World cup.
So here we are allover again. Day 1 almost complete, Time to start again.

I keep making excuses for not going to AA, after saying I would. Just kidding myself on.

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Old 07-22-2014, 03:25 PM
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Old 07-22-2014, 03:28 PM
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Hi Kevin,dont be too hard on yourself! At least you have stopped now and that is incredibly hard to do. When I started to drink again it might take me weeks to stop..so dont worry too much..you,ll get there in the end..we all slip up and allow ourselves to slip up but im sure one day things will just click for you..you,ll get tired of being tired and you,ll make the best decisions..best of luck and a big hug xxx
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Old 07-22-2014, 03:38 PM
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Kevin,

No two people are alike in what it takes to get sober. Take an honest look at what you were doing, and understand that it wasn't enough. That doesn't make you a failure, it just means you haven't found your solution yet. I personally couldn't do it solo, I needed the contact and feedback from others who were also trying to get sober. To my surprise, I found that I enjoyed them and came to enjoy the process.

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Old 07-22-2014, 03:56 PM
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I hope the support here can help you stop drinking for good this time.
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Old 07-22-2014, 04:10 PM
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Hey Kevin, go at it again, tweak the plan though or nothing will change, get some more support in there!!

You can do this!!
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Old 07-22-2014, 04:14 PM
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reaching out before it's too late is a great skill to learn Kevin.
I had to accept that just because there was a red shiny button named DRINK in front of me I didn't have to press it.

I had other options.
Learn to use those other options Kevin

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Old 07-22-2014, 04:21 PM
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Thanks everyone. I do plan to keep my fitness and health plans up. When I sober up, I do feel positive about things.
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Old 07-22-2014, 04:34 PM
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Exercise is good - but you've had that in place before...
maybe you need something else as well, Kevin?

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Old 07-22-2014, 05:04 PM
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Kevin, I'm glad you're back. I wonder if you can make a change in your recovery plan that will help you stay on track?
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Old 07-22-2014, 05:06 PM
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I think the planned relapse is hardest to deal with. I was my own worst enemy. It is harder to get sober than stay sober
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Old 07-22-2014, 05:35 PM
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Your moving in a positive direction. Biking after 20 years proves that. Day 1. First day of the rest of your life. Keep it up.
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Old 07-22-2014, 05:46 PM
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Thanks everyone. Yes, deffo looking at other changes. I need to dig out my old stuff from rehab a few years back.
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Old 07-22-2014, 06:09 PM
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Kevin78. I had almost a week under my belt and relapsed yesterday. I'm back in the saddle, also exercising a lot and determined again. Dust yourself off and get back to the business of sobriety. Best wishes to you.
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Keep the positive attitude Kevin. Stopping drinking is not easy, but there are many here that can attest that it is possible. The support and suggestions here can get you through it. You can do it-
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Old 07-22-2014, 09:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Kevin78 View Post
I knew I had my binge planned for the football World cup.
This is good to recognize as I can admit that all my relapses were planned and deliberate.

I also realized after my last binge that I couldn't do it on my own. I needed "something", I needed support and a plan.

You have 5 weeks sober, so go back and remember some of the things that kept you going at that time. Quitting drinking is one thing, trying to live sober is something else. At least that is what it is like for me.

You can do this because you already have.
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