Divorce is final, relationship not
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Divorce is final, relationship not
I haven't been on in a few months, figured it would be good for my own head to update and that I owe you all a bit for being a sounding board through my troubles.
My divorce was finalized in June, the agreement with all the legalese of splitting was finalized in April. Sometime mid-April, I let RAH back into my bed and subsequently back into my life.
Define RAH, hmm, hasn't drank since December, smokes weed habitually. My codependency struggles continue, I sometimes think I have further to go as far as growth and work with my mental health than an A. I also sometimes feel I have PTSD, and then feel guilty about both those last pity-party sentences since comparatively (to soldiers, others struggling with bigger heartache) my life is so good.
I never re-thought going through with the divorce, with his addiction issues, I am thankful that the legal world is out of my relationship. If he falls off whatever wagon he's on, I can more quickly get him to leave (even divorced, probably a 3-month eviction process), and hopefully gets me off the hook for financial repercussions of any future mis-behavior.
Ugh, tough to write all this. Especially when day by day, I feel much happier than during the divorce, minimal communication etc. Sleeping better, daughter is doing good, he is being a much better father. But there is of course so many unknowns, and so little control of things.
While still a struggle and some concerning traits (pot), this is overall my happy, life is good update.
Many well wishes to you all.
My divorce was finalized in June, the agreement with all the legalese of splitting was finalized in April. Sometime mid-April, I let RAH back into my bed and subsequently back into my life.
Define RAH, hmm, hasn't drank since December, smokes weed habitually. My codependency struggles continue, I sometimes think I have further to go as far as growth and work with my mental health than an A. I also sometimes feel I have PTSD, and then feel guilty about both those last pity-party sentences since comparatively (to soldiers, others struggling with bigger heartache) my life is so good.
I never re-thought going through with the divorce, with his addiction issues, I am thankful that the legal world is out of my relationship. If he falls off whatever wagon he's on, I can more quickly get him to leave (even divorced, probably a 3-month eviction process), and hopefully gets me off the hook for financial repercussions of any future mis-behavior.
Ugh, tough to write all this. Especially when day by day, I feel much happier than during the divorce, minimal communication etc. Sleeping better, daughter is doing good, he is being a much better father. But there is of course so many unknowns, and so little control of things.
While still a struggle and some concerning traits (pot), this is overall my happy, life is good update.
Many well wishes to you all.
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