soberlife123

I'm going to my first one in this new area (since i've moved since my fiancee and I split this weekend). I'm going with a friend but I"m nervous

I went to them in treatment (mandatory) but haven't been really going to them here .....

Any words of advice?

Jupiters

keep an open mind, heart and ears.

and breathe

*hugs*

PurpleKnight

You can do this lawgirl!!

Ghostlight1

If you feel uncomfortable, don't say anything just look for the similarities. You've been before and you won't be alone. Ideal!
Nothing to be afraid of, and I wish you the best.

trachemys

Don't sit with the ones that have horns.

soberlife123

haha it's a speaker meeting (needed to find one that was open as my friend who is coming with me isn't an alcoholic) so i don't think there's going to be any sharing

icecream milkshake helped my nerves

Jupiters

speaker meetings are always a nice way to ease yourself in

Anna

I don't go to AA, but I'm sure it will go smoothly for you.

VikingGF

I want to go to one, and will be going alone, which has me shuffling my feet. Never been.

Good luck at yours!

Lisa

giochick

Lawgirl, I went to my first meeting last week and I was TERRIFIED. There were so many thoughts running through my head like "Will I be able to find it okay?" or "What if I get there late?" or "what am I supposed to do/how am I supposed to act?". But everyone was very nice and welcoming, I got some phone numbers of other women, and I have been going to a meeting at least once a day since. To be honest, the first meeting I went to wasn't a great fit for me, but I went to a bunch of different meetings, and I have now found one that I really like. My advice would be to go and listen with an open mind. And don't be embarrassed if you cry. I cried several times in my first meeting, and the only thing that happened was that lots of nice strangers gave me hugs, advice and encouragement.

soberlife123

I hadn't looked up where the meeting was and it turned out to be in a very hardcore area of town in a homeless shelter. Everyone at the meeting was heavily tattooed, homeless, and male lol. I still went and got my chip. Nice people but that's not going to be my home group, just because a bit hard to relate as a 31 year old professional woman....might try a woman's group!

MIRecovery

AA meetings are the only place I feel totally safe and can let my guard down. I love the feeling of being surrounded by people who know what it is like to be me. As a matter of fact I just got back from one and will be at another one tomorrow

giochick

Good for you lawgirl! I would definitely try a women's group. Another option is to look for a "young person's" meeting. I myself am 33, but still consider myself young, lol. I found a great home group that is for younger people, although I would say the vast majority of the people there are between the ages of 27 and 40. I guess for me, I just felt like a meeting with nothing but "old timers" (nothing against you old timers!) didn't resonate with me. Definitely try another meeting, you will find one that fits!

soberlife123

I consider myself young too