Mummyto2

Well funny enough so are we, unless you experience this addiction and I mean really experience it, no one could quite believe the power of it, I wonder if I said I am leaving my husband because his been diagnosed with a disease, what response I would get, this is a DISEASE, in sickness & in health omg makes me so mad when people think you can just stop, I know it's hard to live with an addict but don't think it's easy for us either because it's not

trachemys

What if you felt you had to leave your husband to maintain your sobriety?

Carlotta

Are you ok?

Mummyto2

Unless he was abusive or something like that I wouldn't, I am just fed up of people thinking the addict has it easy, because it's not the case, I never asked for any of this & wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy

Carlotta

oh ok I get it, you went to the Friends and Family forum. Right now, since you are in very early sobriety I'd advise you to stay away from it unless you have a loved one who is an active alcoholic/addict.
I belong to both sides: I am an alcoholic in recovery and I am also a member of Al Anon and have been affected by my loved ones alcoholism.
Some truths can be very unpleasant to hear and right now you are raw and vulnerable. Just stick to this side of the forum right now

Mummyto2

Yes perhaps your right thanks

ultradad

It happens all the time and actually happens a lot when spouses get sober...I have a friend that's leaving his wife after years of her taking care of him and picking up the pieces after each of his binges! He's got three months sobriety and seems to think they now have nothing in common. I tried talking to him, but he seems to think it's what he needs to do to stay sober...sad thing is they have a kid together. I hate it and don't get it, but I'm not in that household so I don't really know the dynamics of the relationship and maybe them and others would be better off separating.

I just thank God that my wife has stuck with me and I her throughout the struggles with this horrific disease. I agree, more people need to see this as the disease it is!

Mummyto2

It's sad especially when there are children involved

Carlotta

De rien
Why don't you join us at the 24 hours recovery connection and commit not to drink or drug for the next 24 hours?
Before you know it, those days add up
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post4768784
People post all kind of inspirational things there and it is a very positive thread.
Allez courage, vous pouvez le faire: un jour a la fois

cocokramer

My husband left me after I got out of rehab. He told me that he didn't want to stop drinking and then through the course of things went back to my anger and resentments to justify his leaving.

I feel the same. Sickness and heallth. But God know that we alcoholics are not a pretty sight.

I am still hurt by the fact that he couldn't see me through this but then again I don't think I would have gotten sober if he stayed.

so confusing sometimes - my feelings about his leaving.

I'm glad to see posts from another wife who is an alcoholic.

Mummyto2

Must have wrote this years ago

cocokramer

how are things going for you now? I looked for posts from you as I totally related to somethings else you wrote.

Mummyto2

Hi, looking back on this post omg I had a serious chip on my shoulder, I am good thanks 10 days so far

Carlotta

Congrats on 10 day. I have been reading your recent posts and you have come a long way already

Mummyto2

Thank you that's very kind

cocokramer

excellent!!!!!

What happened to the chip?

tomsteve

shhhheeeeew doggie am i glad to see that this thread was from some time ago!! i didnt look at the date when i started readin and thought,"uhoh. mummies drinkin again and havin a serious bout of self pity. "

glad to read ya see it,too!

good on ya for 10 days!

Mummyto2

To be honest I dont think I wanted to stop back then, I think I was doing it for everyone else and not myself, eye opener reading it now