My situation
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My situation
As some of you will know I've had a tough month. A domestic abuse incident followed by finding out I am pregnant, as well as being signed off from work because my anxiety disorder made it impossible to be there. Too much stress.
I miss my job but can't go back until after summer as my GP has deemed I'm unfit for work. I have contact with my friends there but it feels isolating being at home.
In terms of the pregnancy, against my husbands wishes, I made an appointment to terminate. I cancelled it yesterday - I'm not 100% I will continue but I think I owe it to myself to have more time! move out of the shock phase and then make a decision. I'm sober which is a small mercy, should I decide to continue.
Anyway, thanks for all of this support.
I miss my job but can't go back until after summer as my GP has deemed I'm unfit for work. I have contact with my friends there but it feels isolating being at home.
In terms of the pregnancy, against my husbands wishes, I made an appointment to terminate. I cancelled it yesterday - I'm not 100% I will continue but I think I owe it to myself to have more time! move out of the shock phase and then make a decision. I'm sober which is a small mercy, should I decide to continue.
Anyway, thanks for all of this support.
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I hope in the coming couple weeks you can get quiet time alone with your husband and talk about everything you two are feeling--about everything. It would really be a lot better for your marriage if you and he were on the same page about major decisions.
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I've got my mental health referral. I'm scared but we shall see what tomorrow brings. Part of me is hopeful - it will be nine years since I developed gad so maybe I will finally get some help.
Take your time to make your decision on the baby situation.Me and my ex went through with it and it's not nice (obviously).Of course your situation is different to what mine was,but whatever choice you make I hope it all works out the best for you.
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Thank you (and thanks for the prayers Raider, much needed).
I'm not going to make a rash decision on the pregnancy. I'm pleased I cancelled the appointment as I just think I need more time to think over things. Whatever decision isn't going to be easy but I owe it to my family to take time and think things through.
I'm just pleased I continue to wake up alcohol free. I can't imagine how much worse this would be if alcohol was still in the mix.
I'm not going to make a rash decision on the pregnancy. I'm pleased I cancelled the appointment as I just think I need more time to think over things. Whatever decision isn't going to be easy but I owe it to my family to take time and think things through.
I'm just pleased I continue to wake up alcohol free. I can't imagine how much worse this would be if alcohol was still in the mix.
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Thanks again everyone.
I've started bleeding so I'm going to go to A&E. Hopefully they will explain it - I've had a miscarriage before but also had a bleed when pregnant with my daughter. We shall see, I'm feeling confused tbh...
I've started bleeding so I'm going to go to A&E. Hopefully they will explain it - I've had a miscarriage before but also had a bleed when pregnant with my daughter. We shall see, I'm feeling confused tbh...
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Just another thing - I had the form from OH through this morning. They agree I'm not fit to be at work but want advice from my GP so they can help me get back to work. Called my GP as I don't want my alcohol issues being part of this assessment as my employers will see it. Just another shame for an alcoholic
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Good advice Gilmer!
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