Needinghelp82

I don't know why but I called my GP about my foot.

I'd spoken to someone from the domestic abuse helpline and did it. They're calling me back, I'm terrified and no longer want to speak about it...

Muunray

It's ok if you are anxious about this. Doesn't mean you are not doing the right thing. Glad to hear you are taking care of things.

KAD

That was a big step and I can understand your apprehension. I'm proud of you for doing it, though.

Needinghelp82

Thank you. I don't think I can talk about it, my bottle has gone (uk expression)! What do I do?! I'm terrified they will take my dd - I'm an alcoholic only 26 days sober with GAD, he physically hurt me. I don't want them to take dd...

Carlotta

Honey they will not take DD **{hugs}} and you do not have to tell them you are an alcoholic. Stick to what is relevant which is him hurting you physically.
Stay brave, sending prayers your way

MrBen

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Violence is for cowards. But you'll get through and this will one day be a painful but distant memory.

What does dd stand for? If you don't mind me asking.

Opivotal

Wow! So proud of you for making that call. I was concerned about the medical help you received for your foot. How is it by the way?

Carlotta is spot on...no need to talk about anything but the issue at hand. Your choice of course.

Congratulations on 26 days!

You can do this, we're all going with you in spirit.

ReadyAtLast

I'm so glad you are getting help. They will not take your daughter from you-I agree you don't have to tell them about your drinking issues. Violent partners survive by people being too scared to tell anyone or do anything about it.Your feelings are totally understandable but you are doing the right thing for you and your daughter by doing something about this.

Please don't put her and you at risk though by staying in a violent and abusive home.

ReadyAtLast

Darling/Dear Daughter

MrBen

Oh, yeah they wont take your daughter. Seriously, they need a very, very good reason. Unless you have done something criminal or there is compelling evidence she is in danger you're fine.

Don't worry about it.

Hawkeye13

You may need this documentation of the violence in case it happens again.
I'm sorry to say that, but your best chance of protecting your DD is to tell the truth.

It took courage to make the call. I encourage you to follow through.

Needinghelp82

My foot isn't great. It's swollen but they won't do anything about it

Opivotal

I'm sorry to hear that Needinghelp. Maybe the GP can help you.

MrBen

If it isn't broken I don't think they can do much to be honest. Rest is probably the best medicine.

Needinghelp82

It's fractured in two places but they won't do anything. I just need to rest it and keep it elevated apparently.

Dr called back. She wasn't great tbh but I have an appointment tomorrow with my GP

Needinghelp82

Just thought I would add I gave my real name to the domestic helpline. They said they keep records that can be used in court - she said if I needed to call again she would encourage me to tell them my name so they can add it to the documentation. It was a revelation talking to her today - told her about my alcoholism and she said I'd probably blocked a lot out, possibly even drank because of abusive behaviour.

It's not why I picked up wine or why I got to this point. It may well have contributed though

biminiblue

You're doing the right thing. Now that you aren't drinking the dynamics in the relationship are changing and this sounds like his attempt at controlling you. Who knows how much abuse you've blocked out with drinking.

MrBen, A fracture is a break. It is a broken bone that is not snapped in two, but cracked; usually lengthwise.

Needinghelp82

My name is Vanessa. I told them that and my surname so thought I would put it out here. I hate my name!

hokey

So proud of you Needing! For doing the right thing and for maintaining your sobriety through this horrible situation. My thoughts snd prayers wre with you.

thatcat

So happy that you've spoken about it! Just wanted to also say that I broke some bones in my foot once and they said they can't really do much, but to stay off of it... so I understand them not doing anything. It seems like it would need a cast or wrapping, but apparently not. Hope you heal quickly. Stay strong. ((hug))