Needinghelp82

Never thought I would post this...

My husband has just kicked me in front of our daughter. He kicked me in the foot and I'm pretty certain four of my toes are broken (I can't put pressure on them as it hurts too much). Wtf?

I'm 23 days in and he has been supporting me. Lost

sugarbear1

Not sure how this supports you....did you file a police report?

Needinghelp82

I've not contacted the police. It makes me want a drink but I won't.

I just don't know what to do, he's never been violent towards me. I can't walk though as my right foot is crippled.

sugarbear1

well, you can still file a police report, if you are willing to file charges.

you need to seek medical help now

Coldfusion

My wife called the police on me, and it was one of the most helpful things she ever did.

biminiblue

Definitely call the police, go to the hospital, and start making a plan for change.

Call a Domestic Abuse hotline. You need help. Now. It isn't going to get better from here.

Needinghelp82

Thank you.

He's gone out now so I'm just with my daughter. He's got the car, although I doubt I could drive anyway as it hurts too much. I will get to A&E as soon as I can, they won't do anything but at least it will be noted.

Opivotal

This kind of behavior is unacceptable under any circumstances. Please call the police, file a report and head off to the emergency room. The police will help you.

Is there anyone to look after your daughter? If not take her with you.

Drinking is not what you need to do right now.. take action for you and your daughter.

I'm so sorry this happened to you.

ReadyAtLast

This is totally unnacceptable and I hope you find the strength to leave him/tell him to leave. I agree with contacting the police and they will be able to direct you to womens aid assistance and helpline info. The police will help you.A&E will do something-I urge you to report him to the police .Too many men think this is acceptable behaviour and continue to do it as nobody reports them

Please don't drink over it.

Needinghelp82

I won't drink. I'm too far in but I'm in shock. I've been with my husband for 12 years and I've never seen anything like this.

My daughter was scared. I've reassured her but I don't know where to go from here.

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ReadyAtLast

If you do nothing it will happen again and your daughter will grow up thinking it is acceptable to be treated like that by men. History repeats itself.

I'm in the UK too and this happened to me. Believe me,the police will take it very seriously and will assist you in gettign you to a safe place or ensuring he is not allowed back into your home

KAD

It's good that you don't plan to respond by drinking, but what he did is totally unacceptable. I agree with others that you need to file a police report.

Jeni26

This is completely unacceptable for you and your daughter.

I see you are in England. The police will treat this very seriously, but you need to go and seek medical advice for your injury too. I know this all seems shocking and you are probably numb, but he has stepped way over a line here.

Get in contact with these people Home

They will be able to help you.

I'm sorry this has happened, but please don't drink over it. You need to be sober now for you and your little girl.

Hawkeye13

What happened? (Only if you want to share / vent of course)

In your last post yesterday the wedding went well and you didn't drink.

I agree with others, by the way--file the report.
Your daughter saw it, and history does repeat itself.

Needinghelp82

I have no real idea. We went to the wedding yesterday and everything was fine. Woke up, went to church and then I started to do work. Took a break to watch the F1 and had a silly argument over the washing up. Then he kicked me and told me I was "a stupid ****".

Nuudawn

Something doesn't seem to be adding up for me. He hauled off and kicked you so badly he broke bones...and there has NEVER been this sort of behaviour in 12 years?
You have been sober 23 days...
Sweetie...how long have you been "unconscious" (via drinking) in this relationship so to speak?
Get yourself to the hospital and ensure they have all the facts as to how this happened. Please be honest with them ..and do not say it was an accident on your part.
It would be helpful if you could share more here...

Nuudawn

Goodness...um...there is something ugly right here that needs your immediate attention.

Needinghelp82

When we first went out he hit me once. Nothing at all since then in 12 years. I was drinking a bottle of wine a night for a year prior to quitting, upped it in the three months before.

I just don't know how to take this. I'm in shock. He is back and has apologised. His apologies won't mend my toes.

He won't take me to hospital and I can't drive as it is too painful.

Hawkeye13

call an ambulance then and file the report

That's what he is trying to do--stop it from being public record.

Don't let this pass. This is really serious--please don't minimize it or let him do so.

Your foot may be seriously injured and you need medical attention.

What do you mean "he won't drive you"?