DAY 1... also 1st post on SR
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Join Date: Jun 2014
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DAY 1... also 1st post on SR
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surely this is rock bottom.....about to lose my licence for the third time, and so have had to resign from a great job, have a once outgoing husband who suffers depression and now has become a recluse, our beautiful home has been taken by the bank and still not sold, now have no income.....and to think we had a thriving successful business for 20 years and have had 5 mortgages over our time .... and to think we have absolutely nothing after all our hard work ..... very hard to fathom when we have raised two children and who are now on their way in successful careers...this should be the time when we should be enjoying ourselves ... and not be at this point....very very frightening..... cant believe we dont even have our own home after all these years.....very dark time.....but I have to somehow turn all this around.....
surely this is rock bottom.....about to lose my licence for the third time, and so have had to resign from a great job, have a once outgoing husband who suffers depression and now has become a recluse, our beautiful home has been taken by the bank and still not sold, now have no income.....and to think we had a thriving successful business for 20 years and have had 5 mortgages over our time .... and to think we have absolutely nothing after all our hard work ..... very hard to fathom when we have raised two children and who are now on their way in successful careers...this should be the time when we should be enjoying ourselves ... and not be at this point....very very frightening..... cant believe we dont even have our own home after all these years.....very dark time.....but I have to somehow turn all this around.....
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Melbourne
Posts: 115
Welcome Julie,
Almost everyone here has been in a place very similar to where you are, details are different for everyone but we all share so many similarities.
Dee gives great advice. A plan is a really good place to start. As is posting and reading here. Stick around and good luck
Almost everyone here has been in a place very similar to where you are, details are different for everyone but we all share so many similarities.
Dee gives great advice. A plan is a really good place to start. As is posting and reading here. Stick around and good luck
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Join Date: May 2014
Location: San Francisco
Posts: 479
Hello Julie, and welcome!
I too believe what Dee believes, "that it's never too late to turn things around."With that in mind, I wish you all the best and believe that you can do this! Just wanted to let you know that you have my support.
I too believe what Dee believes, "that it's never too late to turn things around."With that in mind, I wish you all the best and believe that you can do this! Just wanted to let you know that you have my support.
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 766
Hi Julie - welcome to SR! There are great folks here and lots of support.
Things were very dark for me when I stopped drinking not quite two months ago...and things are still hard, but they are getting better. I'm moving forward one day at a time and I hope you can too. My best to you.
Things were very dark for me when I stopped drinking not quite two months ago...and things are still hard, but they are getting better. I'm moving forward one day at a time and I hope you can too. My best to you.
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Gatineau, QC, CA
Posts: 5,100
Welcome to SR!
You most definitely can change your life and turn this around. It all starts by stopping the madness of drinking. We have all been caught in the trap we thought had no exit. But there is, the door is right there.
Naturally it's a scary thing to open it without knowing what's waiting on the other side. This requires a leap of faith.
Stay close to SR, don't be shy adding as much support as you need. AA is a great option, and there are non 12 steps approach also such as AVRT, smart recovery groups. You can also add therapy if you feel you need it.
Be kind to yourself and your husband in this difficult time
You most definitely can change your life and turn this around. It all starts by stopping the madness of drinking. We have all been caught in the trap we thought had no exit. But there is, the door is right there.
Naturally it's a scary thing to open it without knowing what's waiting on the other side. This requires a leap of faith.
Stay close to SR, don't be shy adding as much support as you need. AA is a great option, and there are non 12 steps approach also such as AVRT, smart recovery groups. You can also add therapy if you feel you need it.
Be kind to yourself and your husband in this difficult time
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Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 123
Welcome. Sounds like you may be alcoholic. Have you tried a 12 step program and talking to other people who are struggling with alcohol? It might be the first place to start. I see miracles happen daily in the rooms of AA. Looking to God for answers guidance is essential because you can't do it on your own through your own willpower as you have described. There's an amazing and hopefully life for you. What you described is just material. You still have a life and life you can use to make a difference in your life and others. Maybe it's time for some big changes and move on...Good Luck
Left the bottle behind 4/16/2015
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: NC
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Welcome Julie. My heart goes out to you and your situation. A lot of us have faced rough times and thought we'd never make it out of them, but I'm a firm believer that if you ain't dead, you ain't done. You can turn this thing around. So many have hit such low points and thought it was all over, just to find that it was an opening to something they never believed possible. It won't fall into your lap. There will still be work to be done - lots of work - but you can do it. Stick around. There is lots of sympathy, empathy, and support to be found here. Wishing you all the best.
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Join Date: Jun 2014
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Thankyou everyone for making me feel sooo welcome....I will certainly turn to you all for
much needed support...but will in turn be hear to listen to and support all of you in any way I can....
much needed support...but will in turn be hear to listen to and support all of you in any way I can....
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