EmmaF

Hi I gave decided to stop drinking. I haven't really drunk much since getting pregnant four years ago. Before that I struggled with booze, pot etc but in a 'functioning' way. About four months ago I moved home, quit my job and broke up with the father of my kid all in the space of a week. I had a very stressful job, struggled with ill health since pregnancy and had a useless, lazy, unsupportive partner. So decided on a new beginning. However I have found myself drifting back into drinking a bottle of wine every two or three days mostly out of boredom, loneliness or habit. I want to stop this and have decided that it's time to stop drinking altogether. When I have gone through periods of not drinking in the past I have been much happier. I come from a family of addicts and have always ended up in relationships with addicts. I owe it to myself and to my son to break thus chain. I also hate being hungover round him. Are there any other single mums who struggle with loneliness, I am not in my home country and while I have good friends feel an emptiness at not having family around ( although they were never there since my mum died when I was15). Any tips on how to break habits great fully appreciated!

vickys1972

Hey Hun I struggle with it all the time it sucks and I'm always on my own. What country you in x

ScottFromWI

Welcome to SR Emma. This is a great place to find ways to help your decision to get sober. SR itself can be of invaluable support, some use it as their primary recovery tool. There are also several sub-forums on the main page that are specific to AA/12 step programs, Secular programs, etc. What have you tried in the past?

Anna

I think that breaking the habit aspect of sobriety is very important. For me, I had to change my daily routines and patterns and it made a lot of difference. I had to plan to be busy during the early evening time that was so hard for me. If you feel bored and lonely why not take up a new activity, do volunteer work, play a sport, take yoga lessons - whatever would be fun for you?

Cowgirlie

Hi Emma and welcome!
I have just posted in the section 'Women in Recovery' which you may find useful too?
It has taken me 9 days to realize that you can scroll down and there are a million other sub-sections of this Forum HA!
Good luck on your journey x

EmmaF

I am in Ireland. The difficulty I find is that my want to drink is normally early evening, I have to be at home because of my little boy so can't just take off to gym etc. am going to try and meditate when he goes to bed and see if that helps. I am feeling pretty strong about it, it's just trying to ignore the little devil on my shoulder....!!!!!

KateL

I was a lonely mum too so I know how it feels x

FeelingGreat

Hi Emma, if you can find one, buy a second hand juicer and make yourself special juice mixes, or you could make smoothies with berries and fresh fruit. If you do this at 'wine o'clock' it may replace your habit with something healthy. I also tried a teapot and special cup with nice tea (see my avatar). I was setting up a relaxation ritual to replace the wine.