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Old 05-31-2014, 09:47 AM
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My husband who wasn't going to be drinking till his 30th has just bought a case of beer.
I'm so mad!!!!
I've now gone out n bought chocolates n icecream to help distract me
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Old 05-31-2014, 09:51 AM
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This might be a stupid question, but have you discussed with him the fact that having alcohol in the house threatens your sobriety?
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Old 05-31-2014, 09:52 AM
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It really doesn't do any good to get angry. If he wants to drink, he's going to drink. You can't control him, but you can control yourself. Maybe instead of scarfing down chocolate and ice cream, you can find a meeting. Then go get a mani-pedi or something to get you out of the house and strengthen your resolve.
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Old 05-31-2014, 09:53 AM
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I know that eventually we all have to face it, but so early in sobriety, it is a difficult ask indeed
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Old 05-31-2014, 10:02 AM
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I've had my hair cut today so can't afford anything else. So I'm going to have a bath n drink some diet cola.
He is aware of my giving up of drinking and he keeps saying well u can't have any as u need to stay sober n u can't have any with ur tablets.
He thinks he's been funny when in fact it has just made my weekend very difficult.
I'm going to have to have an early night tonight to get rid of this feeling of craving
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Old 05-31-2014, 10:12 AM
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I've now gone out n bought chocolates n icecream to help distract me
Enjoy your chocolates and icre cream...way better than alcohol. I'm sorry you're mad but you won't regret staying sober. You can't control him but you can do this for you.
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Old 05-31-2014, 10:36 AM
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I know it's aggravating when you are trying to stop and alcohol is available.
I don't know all of your situation, so the advice I offer will be brief.



"Don't drink, by doing so you will only
be hurting yourself."


Alcohol-free @ St. Partick 2014 ( a drinkers favorite day of the year l.o.l)
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Old 05-31-2014, 10:46 AM
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I'm starting meetings once my kids start school as time with them is precious and it's difficult to get someone who I trust to watch them while I go.
I feel ok now I've got my cold fizzy pop n i will enjoy my icecream once kids are asleep.
Eating that compared to what I used to drink calories wise is nothing x
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Old 05-31-2014, 10:13 PM
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Hang in there Z-girl. My wife still drinks, too, and I get what you're feeling. Sometimes, I take a "time out" by getting in the car, hopping on the freeway, and blasting my favorite music for a few miles. Just me, but I thought I' throw it out there.
Enjoy the ice cream!
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Old 05-31-2014, 10:16 PM
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It's tough when those closest to us don't understand.
Fortunately tho, we do ZG - keep posting here

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Old 05-31-2014, 10:27 PM
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Ah I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I'm gonna bare a little more than I want to ..but somehow I think I need to be honest in this ole sobriety thang. Last weekend I had 9 days sober when the man in my life invited another couple over for dinner. He had been pretty supportive of my sobriety up until that point but has some drug use issues himself (although not a drinker to speak of and not fond of mine).

The female guest whom I had never met before was perhaps one of the most annoying women I have ever met. I felt this within first 10 minutes. She was drinking wine. My man said he was going to "have a few drinks"...and well...a little recreational cocaine. I knew I wanted wine...so if I went along with his recreational...I knew he wouldn't say "boo" bout my wine (whereas he would have otherwise).

I drank a bottle of wine...and did drugs (not normally my thang) in order to tolerate a situation I felt intolerable (said woman). But let's face it...my addiction was just dying for an excuse to drink...and I found one. I am ashamed to admit all this...but..I realized that I can't bank on my man to be my support in sobriety.

It has to be all me (and the cool cats at SR).that help me do this thing.

Please don't let his use be a trigger...a reason...a justification...excuse..whatever...for you to lose your good stuff.
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Old 06-01-2014, 12:58 AM
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Stayed sober and enjoyed my ben n Jerry's half baked ice cream yum yum
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