Thanos

Well I had a meltdown a couple of nights ago. I had almost two weeks sober and then had a "victory" at work (but who will care in a few weeks, no one!) so the boss was like let's have a drink! After they had "a drink" I secretly went to my 3 watering holes and had 7 more! After that I said, ugh, I relapsed, but continued to do relapse every day afterwards until today. I have got to beat this. I had a good two weeks, I want two more like that, no hangovers, no zombie spaciness, no false emotions, no taste and breath of alcohol. I want to be fit and alert, which I haven't been for fifteen years (exactly coinciding with my heavy drinking career, no coincidence). I want to be the best dad and husband I can be. I know that problems won't vanish, but that doesn't matter. Anyway, I feel ashamed for "At the Bat", my last genius thread, so I wanted you guys to know that I am back, and getting sober and new again. Good luck to us!

Dee74

Welcome back Thanos

Have you given any thought to what you'll say and do next time the boss says 'lets have a drink'?

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Mountainmanbob

sometimes we get to a point in time where we make a firm decision

DisplacedGRITS

Welcome back! It's always good to have a stand by response for when someone offers you a drink. Often, a simple "no thanks" will suffice. Health, weight, general well being (I get too groggy when I drink now) are all valid reasons for not drinking. There are many medications that warn against taking alcohol with them. I'm on a few so I stick with that if "no thanks" doesn't work.

Hevyn

We're with you Thanos - you can do this. There's no fun in it anymore, only misery and despair. So let's begin again.

Thanos

Thanks Dee that is a great question. Honestly I haven't thought about that though. I guess I am sick or something but it won't work long term ... My boss is a big party guy he would sense weirdness I think. I think I need to avoid those situations and just say I have child care issues and need to pick up the kids. Is that wrong?

Thanos

Thanks Grits, I may look into medications with reactions to alcohol. That would give me a handy excuse until "no thanks" works for me. Right now if I say "no thanks", there will be multiple people (both higher status and clients I am supposed to ingratiate) saying, Aw Come On, tequila? Tequila! They make it so that "No thanks" would be confrontational