Dealing with friends
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Dealing with friends
Hi, I'm looking for advice on how to deal with the social aspect of sobriety. I don't think I can be around social gatherings when alcohol is the main ingredient, but that's everything. Does it get easier? I'm afraid I'm going to end up distancing myself from all my friends.
Hi Thawk
By the time I quit drinking and drugging most of my friends were drinkers and druggers too.
I'd tried just not drinking, but that never worked - it became clear to me that if I really wanted to get sober and stay that way I needed to make some pretty big lifestyle changes.
Some of my friends supported me, a lot didn't - but I made new friends, and reconnected with old ones I'd drifted away from cos of my drinking.
I don't think I lost out on the deal
It might seem like every social occasion has alcohol as the main ingredient but that's not true. I meet my friends for coffee, for pizza, you can play music together if you have that talent, or sports, get into hobbies.
The only limit is you imagination really
glad you found us - welcome aboard
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By the time I quit drinking and drugging most of my friends were drinkers and druggers too.
I'd tried just not drinking, but that never worked - it became clear to me that if I really wanted to get sober and stay that way I needed to make some pretty big lifestyle changes.
Some of my friends supported me, a lot didn't - but I made new friends, and reconnected with old ones I'd drifted away from cos of my drinking.
I don't think I lost out on the deal
It might seem like every social occasion has alcohol as the main ingredient but that's not true. I meet my friends for coffee, for pizza, you can play music together if you have that talent, or sports, get into hobbies.
The only limit is you imagination really
glad you found us - welcome aboard
D
Hi thawk86,
Welcome to the SoberRecovery forum
This is a really great question. How long have you been sober?
I'm just in my first month myself and have been around a few social gatherings with alcohol but it is definitely a different way of interacting now than before.
This site is a great way to slowly figure out how you want (and need) to relate to others when new to sobriety...in one month here I have met some neat people and great new friends
It is very, very supportive here. Jump in!
Welcome to the SoberRecovery forum
This is a really great question. How long have you been sober?
I'm just in my first month myself and have been around a few social gatherings with alcohol but it is definitely a different way of interacting now than before.
This site is a great way to slowly figure out how you want (and need) to relate to others when new to sobriety...in one month here I have met some neat people and great new friends
It is very, very supportive here. Jump in!
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This decision we have made is a more than just a decision to stay home one Friday nite and not go out with the boys to the saloon. This decision is a life changing event. Your changes include your total outlook on life going forward and that has to include who is on the ride with you. Some of your past associates just dont get a ticket...period. They add zero value to your life. They will be a detriment to your success. The sooner you recognize who who's who in you journey, the sooner you can get on with the business at hand.
Good luck to you my friend. You are young and have a good full life ahead of you. Congrats for recognizing the problem at this stage.
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Originally Posted by thawk86
Hi, I'm looking for advice on how to deal with the social aspect of sobriety. I don't think I can be around social gatherings when alcohol is the main ingredient, but that's everything. Does it get easier? I'm afraid I'm going to end up distancing myself from all my friends.
Best thing would seem to be to simply adjust your hobbies or who you hang out with, maybe get some new activities?? I dont know, its tough man. We have to make a LOT of changes it seems............... quitting booze is simple, but not easy.
No easy answer at all, America and its culture in particular is alcohol-central so i certainly identify with the "left out of all the fun stuff" feeling.
You will feel like a kid whose had his toys and action figures taken away, it sucks.............. but it is necessary.
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