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Entering Detox in a few hours. So depressed.

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So my Therapist convinced me to go into detox to get off wine and today is so depressing because once my Husband comes home at 6, I know it's time for me to go. I will have to say goodbye to my kids and this will destroy me. Luckily they are 4 and 6 and don't understand. My 6 year old thinks I'm just going for a procedure to get better. Still, saying goodbye and entering the mental health ward for detox is destroying me. I'm so depressed I don't know how I am going to get through this. UGGG

Sorry just venting on here. Thanks.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:29 AM
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No reason for apologies. My kids are my world, too. I wish you well, Mary.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:31 AM
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This should be a joyous occassion! Sista- you are about to get your life back. SMILE
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:32 AM
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This will not destroy you, this will make you stronger. You are doing something for yourself, and by extension, your children, that will improve the lives of all of you. Don't dread this. Your children will be fine. Jump into this with both feet and become a sponge to absorb all that you will learn.

This is the first step toward a better life for all of you. (((HUGS)))
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:34 AM
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You ARE going in for a procedure to get better Congrats for taking that step. Think of this as the first day of a new life and how great it will feel to hug your hubby and kids afterwards, without poison in your system hindering your ability to "feel".

I've been trying for awhile to convince my AH he needs detox but he insists on doing it on his own. Everyone is different and maybe this is the step you need to take. Don't be depressed, be proud of yourself.

I wish you all the best.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted by joey0530 View Post
Hi,
I will have to say goodbye to my kids and this will destroy me.
Actually it's the other way around if you think of it - NOT going to Detox will destroy you eventually if you keep drinking. Detox will help you get better and be a better mom/wife/person. Detox is a positive step forward- and everything you learn will be to your benefit. The people taking care of you know it too - and that's why the are there - to help you get better.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:36 AM
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Mary, you are doing the right thing for yourself and your family.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:37 AM
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We are here to support you and one way to do that is to listen to you vent.

You can do it. Think how nice it will be to spend time with your kids sober in the future.

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Originally Posted by joey0530 View Post
Hi,

So my Therapist convinced me to go into detox to get off wine and today is so depressing because once my Husband comes home at 6, I know it's time for me to go. I will have to say goodbye to my kids and this will destroy me. Luckily they are 4 and 6 and don't understand. My 6 year old thinks I'm just going for a procedure to get better. Still, saying goodbye and entering the mental health ward for detox is destroying me. I'm so depressed I don't know how I am going to get through this. UGGG

Sorry just venting on here. Thanks.
Mary
You are doing a very courageous thing here and this will be a huge benefit to you and your children,
Wishing you well.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:40 AM
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Mary, believe me, you are doing the best
thing that you could ever do. I truly
understand your apprehension and
anxiety, I went to detox when I got
to the end of my rope. The people
that staff these facilities are medical
professionals, registered nurses and
technicians. They are compassionate
and understanding. You will miss
the children but, when you return home,
they will have a new Mom! A sober Mom.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:41 AM
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It will just be a short spell, then a lifetime of sober living with your kids.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:42 AM
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Interesting use of the word 'destroy'. That's what alcohol does to us.

All the best! Hoping you feel better soon, as I am sure you will!
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:45 AM
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Thanks for your kind words. I'm worried when I return I will still have cravings for wine.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:47 AM
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Thanks for your kind words. I'm worried when I return I will still have cravings for wine.

It will just be head games at that point,if indeed you have any.
I think you're going to feel so much better you wont ever want to go back.
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Originally Posted by joey0530 View Post
Thanks for your kind words. I'm worried when I return I will still have cravings for wine.
You might, but one of the things they will teach you is ways to deal with cravings - and plans/resources you can use to beat the cravings. Listen to what they have to say.

Don't really worry about that now though, focus on the task at hand.
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Yeah, you are so essential to yourself (hah! master of the obvious) and your kids. Try to think about this as an opportunity to totally focus on yourself and getting better. Get everything you can out of the experience. Then you get to return to your kiddos in a much better state and can give them all of the squishy love that is inside you.
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Old 05-14-2014, 11:57 AM
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Originally Posted by joey0530 View Post
I'm worried when I return I will still have cravings for wine.
You may love wine but it is definitely not loving you back...and never will
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Yes, you will have those cravings.
Work your program and those
cravings will diminish in time.
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Old 05-14-2014, 04:47 PM
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You are taking a good and brave step.

To be honest, if I could turn back the clock, I would and should have gone to detox as well. It would have saved me a lot of pain.

Hugs and prayers x
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