Courage To Change 05/08/14
Behold the power of NO
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Courage To Change 05/08/14
“Yes, but . . .” These two words have become a signal to me that I am refusing to accept something over which I am powerless. My world is rich with wonderful gifts: beauty, a loving fellowship, and challenges that
strengthen and prepare me for a better life. Is it worth it to deny these gifts by wishing things were different? Will it make them change? No! I prefer to accept them gladly, enjoy them thoroughly, and humbly accept
the reality my Higher Power offers without any “yes, buts.” The harsh tone, the unkind word, the apparent indifference of another is usually over in a few minutes. What price am I paying by holding on to those few minutes? I don’t have to like reality, only to accept it for what it is. This day is too precious to waste by resenting things I can’t change. When I accept everything as it is, I tend to be reasonably serene. When I spend my time wishing things were different, I know that serenity has lost its
priority.
strengthen and prepare me for a better life. Is it worth it to deny these gifts by wishing things were different? Will it make them change? No! I prefer to accept them gladly, enjoy them thoroughly, and humbly accept
the reality my Higher Power offers without any “yes, buts.” The harsh tone, the unkind word, the apparent indifference of another is usually over in a few minutes. What price am I paying by holding on to those few minutes? I don’t have to like reality, only to accept it for what it is. This day is too precious to waste by resenting things I can’t change. When I accept everything as it is, I tend to be reasonably serene. When I spend my time wishing things were different, I know that serenity has lost its
priority.
Today’s Reminder
While I am responsible for changing what I can, I have to let go of the rest if I want peace of mind. Just for today I will love myself enough to give up a struggle over something that is out of my hands.
“By yielding you may obtain victory.”
Ovid
While I am responsible for changing what I can, I have to let go of the rest if I want peace of mind. Just for today I will love myself enough to give up a struggle over something that is out of my hands.
“By yielding you may obtain victory.”
Ovid
Behold the power of NO
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Oh the infamous yeah buts. I don't suffer from them too much and I have not noticed them that much on this side of the street (friends and family) but I hear them often from newcomers who are alcoholics or addicts. It's like waving a red flag in front of me serious and triggering to my codependency.
I know that the newcomer who is full of yeah buts has not surrendered and still has a painful road ahead of them..makes me want to hit them over the head with the Big Book to knock some sense and sobriety into their thick skulls and this is where Just for today I will love myself enough to give up a struggle over something that is out of my hands. kicks in
I am powerless over alcohol
I know that the newcomer who is full of yeah buts has not surrendered and still has a painful road ahead of them..makes me want to hit them over the head with the Big Book to knock some sense and sobriety into their thick skulls and this is where Just for today I will love myself enough to give up a struggle over something that is out of my hands. kicks in
I am powerless over alcohol
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For me this equates to my own codependencies too. I am always overanalyzing everything. I cant change him. I cant make him seek recovery and I myself have to let go of my worries about the future and how it will all play out. I am powerless over alcohol and I cant worry about the what if's. I have to take what is in front of me now and focus on myself.
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Originally Posted by Carlotta 
“ When I spend my time wishing things were different, I know that serenity has lost its
priority.
“By yielding you may obtain victory.”
Ovid
priority.
“By yielding you may obtain victory.”
Ovid
"When the resistance is gone, so are the demons"
~ Pema Chodron,
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