Newbie needs guidance
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Newbie needs guidance
Hi everybody, my name is Amina and I'm brand new to Sober Recovery. I'm a recovering alcoholic - sober about four years now - with the certain knowledge that I'll be always be addicted to alcoholism.
At 72 years of age, with still a lot left to achieve, I have arrived at this happy state in my life following the intervention of friends, hospitalisation, my wonderful psychiatrist and psychologist whom I still consult.
The only medication I take is for extreme anxiety and deep depression, which has probably been with me since an abusive childhood situation: not quite seven, two-youth gang rape, no help physical or otherwise even though both my parents and parents of the two boys met, with me as the object of their attention, to discuss the situation.
It all then went away disappeared as if by magic. Never mentioned again.
Only now can I understand why I behaved the way I did throughout my life. Generally a people-pleaser and a magnet for narcissists.
I was married once to a narc - briefly - and extricated myself only because I grew to dislike his behaviour toward me, his kids by his first wife, and his friends and colleagues. He was also amoral with other people's money. Though there were a number of romances and engagements I chose to remain unmarried: therefore no children, grandchildren or whatever, though I love kids.
What I intend to do is write through all my angst.
The reason I have joined SR is because one relative is a member and recommended it to me after I voice my response to a radio discussion on Chardonnay.
As the discussion went into detail about taste, colour, side of the vineyard, etc, I found I could taste the wine in my mouth. It was a taste memory but it was enough to seek an urgent appointment with my psychologist. I see him next week.
Meanwhile I need guidance in choosing forums that are relevant to me and where I can be useful with my breadth and depth of hardwon knowledge and experience.
I would be grateful for any response.
Thank you
Amina
At 72 years of age, with still a lot left to achieve, I have arrived at this happy state in my life following the intervention of friends, hospitalisation, my wonderful psychiatrist and psychologist whom I still consult.
The only medication I take is for extreme anxiety and deep depression, which has probably been with me since an abusive childhood situation: not quite seven, two-youth gang rape, no help physical or otherwise even though both my parents and parents of the two boys met, with me as the object of their attention, to discuss the situation.
It all then went away disappeared as if by magic. Never mentioned again.
Only now can I understand why I behaved the way I did throughout my life. Generally a people-pleaser and a magnet for narcissists.
I was married once to a narc - briefly - and extricated myself only because I grew to dislike his behaviour toward me, his kids by his first wife, and his friends and colleagues. He was also amoral with other people's money. Though there were a number of romances and engagements I chose to remain unmarried: therefore no children, grandchildren or whatever, though I love kids.
What I intend to do is write through all my angst.
The reason I have joined SR is because one relative is a member and recommended it to me after I voice my response to a radio discussion on Chardonnay.
As the discussion went into detail about taste, colour, side of the vineyard, etc, I found I could taste the wine in my mouth. It was a taste memory but it was enough to seek an urgent appointment with my psychologist. I see him next week.
Meanwhile I need guidance in choosing forums that are relevant to me and where I can be useful with my breadth and depth of hardwon knowledge and experience.
I would be grateful for any response.
Thank you
Amina
Last edited by Amina; 05-07-2014 at 05:07 AM. Reason: Correcting a whoopsie - line misplaced
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Hi Amina! Narc magnet here, too. In therapy for it now. Happy you are here! Can't wait to hear more of your wisdom as I am minus narc (sociopath) only 4 months. I DID stop drinking over it though, which was a good thing. I was killing myself.
Read the posts around here, and WELCOME!
Read the posts around here, and WELCOME!
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Hi WritingFromLife, BHappy24 and Least. Thanks so much for responding to my post. I'm not sure how technically to respond to you individually, so please excuse this inclusive response.
Least, I understand your passion for dogs as I feel the same way about cats.My beloved sable Burmese Kublai Khan was put to sleep in my arms - one of the agonies of pet ownership - almost a month ago, do I am petless until two kittens arrive mid-June.
Dear WritingFromLife, perhaps I can share some stuff with you that may be of use. I've been there, done that, got the T-shirt and currently am dealing with two in my life - or should I say the NPD sociopathic husbands of my best friend and a close relative. I find that I am able to help them put things into perspective and take action so, hopefully, they avoid the long-drawn out agonies that are concommitant with a victim of these disorders.
And, again my thanks to BHappy2014 for welcome. I am currently relatively happy. I'd like to be happier.
Amina
Least, I understand your passion for dogs as I feel the same way about cats.My beloved sable Burmese Kublai Khan was put to sleep in my arms - one of the agonies of pet ownership - almost a month ago, do I am petless until two kittens arrive mid-June.
Dear WritingFromLife, perhaps I can share some stuff with you that may be of use. I've been there, done that, got the T-shirt and currently am dealing with two in my life - or should I say the NPD sociopathic husbands of my best friend and a close relative. I find that I am able to help them put things into perspective and take action so, hopefully, they avoid the long-drawn out agonies that are concommitant with a victim of these disorders.
And, again my thanks to BHappy2014 for welcome. I am currently relatively happy. I'd like to be happier.
Amina
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