Back to Court Tomorrow
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Back to Court Tomorrow
I'm scheduled to be in court tomorrow morning, in my seemingly never-ending saga to terminate my alimony payments to my ex-H (who is not an A), which under our settlement agreement expired three months ago. However, the deductions don't stop coming out of my paycheck until the judge signs a new withholding order. My ex has dragged everything out as much as possible, and two weeks ago filed a litany of new motions against me. I am told that most judges like to dispose of all pending motions at once, and it is very likely the judge will AGAIN decline to rule on my motion to terminate alimony payments tomorrow so that he can rule on my motion and my ex's motions all at the same time, likely 30-60 days from now, if not longer.
Those of you who have read some of my prior posts know that terminating these alimony payments is the biggest component of me being able to financially support myself and my son when the time comes for me to leave my AH.
Your prayers, positive thoughts, hugs, good vibes, etc. are welcome and appreciated.
Those of you who have read some of my prior posts know that terminating these alimony payments is the biggest component of me being able to financially support myself and my son when the time comes for me to leave my AH.
Your prayers, positive thoughts, hugs, good vibes, etc. are welcome and appreciated.
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It is astounding to me how much the courts can be manipulated by those (like your ex) who use it as a playground for BS gameplaying...
I really hope that the judge not only terminates the alimony order but gives your ex a tongue lashing (or contempt charge?) for dragging this process out endlessly...
I really hope that the judge not only terminates the alimony order but gives your ex a tongue lashing (or contempt charge?) for dragging this process out endlessly...
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Originally Posted by wanttobehealthy 
It is astounding to me how much the courts can be manipulated by those (like your ex) who use it as a playground for BS gameplaying...
I really hope that the judge not only terminates the alimony order but gives your ex a tongue lashing (or contempt charge?) for dragging this process out endlessly...
I really hope that the judge not only terminates the alimony order but gives your ex a tongue lashing (or contempt charge?) for dragging this process out endlessly...
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It comes directly out of my paycheck, so there is no way for me to stop the payments without a court order.
It is frustrating, because the courts definitely have to follow the proper process, which admittedly is slow. We are going to push HARD on every issue we can tomorrow. I am hoping for resolution, but also will not be surprised if my motion gets delayed again. And if my ex doesn't drop his ridiculous claims against me, we will push that he be held in contempt of court, because his court pleadings flat-out lie about his income, which is shockingly easy to prove based on his tax returns. Honestly, the lies and misrepresentations are so STUPID, because anyone who can do simple arithmetic can see what is going on.
Anyway, thanks again for the support and positive thoughts!
It is frustrating, because the courts definitely have to follow the proper process, which admittedly is slow. We are going to push HARD on every issue we can tomorrow. I am hoping for resolution, but also will not be surprised if my motion gets delayed again. And if my ex doesn't drop his ridiculous claims against me, we will push that he be held in contempt of court, because his court pleadings flat-out lie about his income, which is shockingly easy to prove based on his tax returns. Honestly, the lies and misrepresentations are so STUPID, because anyone who can do simple arithmetic can see what is going on.
Anyway, thanks again for the support and positive thoughts!
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Do you have all the paperwork showing what has been done and when?
An outline/cover paper that shows things in black and white, with evidence to back it up.
I know you have the evidence, but wondering here how best to present it if they'll let you. What you are proposing and why. What can be addressed at a future hearing that he/she doesn't have to deal with that day.
<edit> I like your plan to push hard on all of it! Good luck! </edit>
Will there be someone there with you?
Sending you many prayers and good wishes!!
An outline/cover paper that shows things in black and white, with evidence to back it up.
I know you have the evidence, but wondering here how best to present it if they'll let you. What you are proposing and why. What can be addressed at a future hearing that he/she doesn't have to deal with that day.
<edit> I like your plan to push hard on all of it! Good luck! </edit>
Will there be someone there with you?
Sending you many prayers and good wishes!!
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The court process is absurd. Everything is drawn out and set up for the lawyers and judges to make money. It does not serve the people who get caught up in matters such as these and much of the time - whoever has the best lawyer wins. I am involved in a family court matter and it is astonishing how incompetent it is, EVEN with children involved.
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