The Memorial was Today
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The Memorial was Today
It was rough. I cried like, the whole time.
Anyway. The ABF's friend's friend (who was also friends with the ABF but not that close) gave me his number and told me to call him whenever I want to talk.
The ABF's friend (I am sorry if this is confusing, but it would be much easier if I used names...) said we would be a cute couple.
WTF?! I mean, I understand and all, and trust me, he isn't bad looking, but I am like...dying here. I can't even think about that crap.
He said he's a good guy, etc. and I said, can't be much worse than what I was dealing with, and he said, yeah, but he loved you, and I said, yeah, but that makes it worse, people trying to hook me up at my boyfriend's memorial.
It was confusing. He just friend requested me on facebook. He helped me a lot at this memorial, sneaking pictures that the sister had onto my computer so I could keep them and whatnot, and I really appreciate that. It's just a lot to take right now, I guess.
Anyway. The ABF's friend's friend (who was also friends with the ABF but not that close) gave me his number and told me to call him whenever I want to talk.
The ABF's friend (I am sorry if this is confusing, but it would be much easier if I used names...) said we would be a cute couple.
WTF?! I mean, I understand and all, and trust me, he isn't bad looking, but I am like...dying here. I can't even think about that crap.
He said he's a good guy, etc. and I said, can't be much worse than what I was dealing with, and he said, yeah, but he loved you, and I said, yeah, but that makes it worse, people trying to hook me up at my boyfriend's memorial.
It was confusing. He just friend requested me on facebook. He helped me a lot at this memorial, sneaking pictures that the sister had onto my computer so I could keep them and whatnot, and I really appreciate that. It's just a lot to take right now, I guess.
Wow, that is way off! Seriously. Says a lot about them, doesn't it? You don't need more wacky headcases in your life. Good that he helped you out and all, but is now really the right moment? Just wow.
Hugs, Inpieces. Being emotional at a memorial service for a loved one is healthy, and it's part of the healing process. I'm glad that it was so meaningful for you. And, I hope you can use those good memories of him to find peace in your heart.
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Hugs, Inpieces. Being emotional at a memorial service for a loved one is healthy, and it's part of the healing process. I'm glad that it was so meaningful for you. And, I hope you can use those good memories of him to find peace in your heart.
Fathom
I'm glad you got to go.
I'm glad it's over.
And I'm really sorry about the stepping over any acceptable boundary from this person.
I really think funerals and grief brings out the weird in people.
Sometimes, I think because the emotions run so high, we're so afraid of doing something "wrong" or "hurtful" that we act all weird. Although hitting on the deceased's widow at the funeral? That's not just weird, that's flippin' loony, any way you cut it.
Big hugs to you. I know even though the memorial service is over, your grief work is only beginning. Please be good to yourself.
I'm glad it's over.
And I'm really sorry about the stepping over any acceptable boundary from this person.
I really think funerals and grief brings out the weird in people.
Sometimes, I think because the emotions run so high, we're so afraid of doing something "wrong" or "hurtful" that we act all weird. Although hitting on the deceased's widow at the funeral? That's not just weird, that's flippin' loony, any way you cut it.
Big hugs to you. I know even though the memorial service is over, your grief work is only beginning. Please be good to yourself.
I am so so sorry for your loss and your grief. I agree the grief work just now begins.
It's good to have lots of friends and support around you now. Not so sure about Mr. Hookup as that is very strange.
Praying for you!
It's good to have lots of friends and support around you now. Not so sure about Mr. Hookup as that is very strange.
Praying for you!
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My mom told me today that her first date after my dad died was 3 months later. I was shocked. She said she was tired of going home and crying so she went on a date, didn't care who it was, where they went, anything.
There were actually 3 people last night. The one I am talking about, he is nice, and I don't mind talking to him, and he's not trying to do anything other than listen to me-I think.
The problem for me is that these other two people are his friends. Friends don't do that to each other. And the one guy said that he promised him he would take care of the kids if something happened to him, which made me angry. Yeah, it's probably true, but I bet he didn't want him to take care of ME too. I have been doing this on my own the entire time we have been together, this is no different. I have a lot of anger toward these people for doing this when he just died. It's horrible.
And then there is the other part-the ABF ran around everywhere telling people I was a crazy psycho b-word, so why exactly would they want to be anywhere near me? It is true, by the way, but still-after the stories they heard, I can't figure out what is going on in their heads.
There were actually 3 people last night. The one I am talking about, he is nice, and I don't mind talking to him, and he's not trying to do anything other than listen to me-I think.
The problem for me is that these other two people are his friends. Friends don't do that to each other. And the one guy said that he promised him he would take care of the kids if something happened to him, which made me angry. Yeah, it's probably true, but I bet he didn't want him to take care of ME too. I have been doing this on my own the entire time we have been together, this is no different. I have a lot of anger toward these people for doing this when he just died. It's horrible.
And then there is the other part-the ABF ran around everywhere telling people I was a crazy psycho b-word, so why exactly would they want to be anywhere near me? It is true, by the way, but still-after the stories they heard, I can't figure out what is going on in their heads.
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