Close call - resisting the urge/craving
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Close call - resisting the urge/craving
For starters I'm not sure of the difference between urge and craving - I would appreciate it if anyone can enlighten me.
Today is Day 12 - I have the day off and so does my husband and the kids aren't home. When I finished at the gym the thought of some wine at lunch hit me. I guess I let it roll around in my head while I did the fruit and veg shopping. But I didn't buy a bottle to take home. When I got home I said to my husband "I really feel like a 'glass' of wine - he responded "well you can't". I persisted a little but he stood firm. I have accepted it and I'm cooking us lunch. Wow - I was visualising the glass of wine. I will not drink today.
Today is Day 12 - I have the day off and so does my husband and the kids aren't home. When I finished at the gym the thought of some wine at lunch hit me. I guess I let it roll around in my head while I did the fruit and veg shopping. But I didn't buy a bottle to take home. When I got home I said to my husband "I really feel like a 'glass' of wine - he responded "well you can't". I persisted a little but he stood firm. I have accepted it and I'm cooking us lunch. Wow - I was visualising the glass of wine. I will not drink today.
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Hi AF - I think urge and craving is a 'tomayto tomarto' argument. The terms are synomynous
There are some great tips for cravings here:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
There are some great tips for cravings here:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
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In my mind, an urge is the thought that "a drink would be nice right now". The thought is not accompanied by any physical yearning. A crave to me is the physical yearning for a drink.
Congratulations on your 12 days. I'm glad your husband is supporting you in your commitment to not drink.
Congratulations on your 12 days. I'm glad your husband is supporting you in your commitment to not drink.
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Hi screwdupind - I guess I was testing if he would cave. This is no new problem in our marriage and in the past he has always said something like 'it's up to you - do you think it will be ok?' Poor guy - what I've put him through in regards to alcohol! Well he didn't suggest it was ok today and I haven't drunk and I am very glad I didn't.
I have thought for a long time that my husband would really have liked me to learn to drink non alcoholically so it was something we could share together and because he didn't need to change his drinking to make it easier for me. He is not an alcoholic and that's become more and more apparent to me over recent years. At the moment there is not alcohol in the house and he offered to do this. Yes he is being very supportive.
I have thought for a long time that my husband would really have liked me to learn to drink non alcoholically so it was something we could share together and because he didn't need to change his drinking to make it easier for me. He is not an alcoholic and that's become more and more apparent to me over recent years. At the moment there is not alcohol in the house and he offered to do this. Yes he is being very supportive.
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