Dealing with sadness
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Dealing with sadness
Hi all, hope everyone is doing good,
So here I am on day 5. Had a super weekend and had my son with me (shared custody) he was back from 2 weeks with his mom in florida.
He just left for the week, and as always I feel a total sense of deep sadness that the reason is me, and that his mom left me because of my Alcoholism.
This time is usually my time to get hammered to try to burry this feeling.
So instead of drinking I will stay close to SR, have a huge dinner, then some relaxing tea. I realize I feel sad and that drinking will not help.
Dealing with emotions is not easy, but I am in control and tomorrow I will feel better.
Now I need to acknowledge all my emotions when they come so that I don't let them overwhelm me, because my AV loves it when I feel weak.
Have a super sunday night everyone
So here I am on day 5. Had a super weekend and had my son with me (shared custody) he was back from 2 weeks with his mom in florida.
He just left for the week, and as always I feel a total sense of deep sadness that the reason is me, and that his mom left me because of my Alcoholism.
This time is usually my time to get hammered to try to burry this feeling.
So instead of drinking I will stay close to SR, have a huge dinner, then some relaxing tea. I realize I feel sad and that drinking will not help.
Dealing with emotions is not easy, but I am in control and tomorrow I will feel better.
Now I need to acknowledge all my emotions when they come so that I don't let them overwhelm me, because my AV loves it when I feel weak.
Have a super sunday night everyone
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Congrats on 5 days, pat! We're doing well! 
You're saying and thinking the right things though! Drinking won't make anything better at all!! Stick with the yummy tea! I'm actually thinking about getting myself a couple new and fun mugs. Like that one with the elephant trunk as the handle. Lol.
Watch an uplifting movie tonight!
You're saying and thinking the right things though! Drinking won't make anything better at all!! Stick with the yummy tea! I'm actually thinking about getting myself a couple new and fun mugs. Like that one with the elephant trunk as the handle. Lol.
Watch an uplifting movie tonight!
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Originally Posted by sugarbear1 
do you journal?
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Although everything you said maybe true the story is not over. You have many years to rebuild broken relationships. You can show your ex and son you are not that person anymore. That you have conquered a fatal disease and are stronger for it. This is One of few times projecting into the future is OK. Marriages and graduations attended by a sober father and proud son.
The past is the past but the future is so much better sober
The past is the past but the future is so much better sober
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Originally Posted by MIRecovery
Although everything you said maybe true the story is not over. You have many years to rebuild broken relationships. You can show your ex and son you are not that person anymore. That you have conquered a fatal disease and are stronger for it. This is One of few times projecting into the future is OK. Marriages and graduations attended by a sober father and proud son.
The past is the past but the future is so much better sober
The past is the past but the future is so much better sober
If you can face one of the most painful thing in life and not picking up, than I think I can man up and do this for good Mirecovery.
Nightly prayers your family's way.
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Hi PatMan....You are not alone in feeling a bit lost & alone today. My teen Son just left for the afternoon & I'm feeling extremely sad for no particular reason....maybe that my youngest is not a little guy anymore....guilt about times "lost" due to my alcoholism. Be good to yourself
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You can do it patman, I am sure this will be one of your toughest tests you will face. We are here for you man, if you need to lean on us to take some of the weight off.
We believe in you. Also like MIR said the story is not over.
Stay strong
We believe in you. Also like MIR said the story is not over.
Stay strong
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Ok, I didn't want to say anything but hopefully it will help to get it out. Today is my middle daughter's 20th birthday. Had to wish her happy birthday by text because in her words "I HATE you!!!" and won't talk to me or see me. So what's a dad to do but hope she will forgive me in the future.
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Our little ones eventually grow up having
parents that hopefully have passed on
some good lessons to take with them
on their own journeys in life.
My 2 babies were about 3 and 6
when I entered recovery and had
some important tools and knowledge
of addiction I had to learn myself and
was able to pass them on to my own
before they became little adults.
I used to think of my babies as gifts
from God or my HP - Higher Power of
my understanding, raising them with
His help and guidance with recovery
as my guideline.
I wanted to be the best I could be with
the tools I had to keep them safe while
they were in my care. I know without a
doubt that I surely couldn't have done
the job I did with them without Him and
recovery.
Today they are 2 fine young adults in
their 20's, one with his own family, college
degreed, career job and my daughter,
degreed as well, owning her own home
and good job.
If, family had not done an intervention on
me 23 yrs ago, getting me help I so desperately
needed at that time in my life, no telling
where Id be today or how my little ones
would have ended up.
I have a lot to be grateful for and to never
take anything for granted. My recovery life
I learned from many before me has carried
me thru many twisting, turning changes
in life to get me where I am today.
The promises as mentioned in the Big Book
of AA will come true and become gifts to
be treasured a life time for many one days
at a time I remain sober.
It can be for you too.
parents that hopefully have passed on
some good lessons to take with them
on their own journeys in life.
My 2 babies were about 3 and 6
when I entered recovery and had
some important tools and knowledge
of addiction I had to learn myself and
was able to pass them on to my own
before they became little adults.
I used to think of my babies as gifts
from God or my HP - Higher Power of
my understanding, raising them with
His help and guidance with recovery
as my guideline.
I wanted to be the best I could be with
the tools I had to keep them safe while
they were in my care. I know without a
doubt that I surely couldn't have done
the job I did with them without Him and
recovery.
Today they are 2 fine young adults in
their 20's, one with his own family, college
degreed, career job and my daughter,
degreed as well, owning her own home
and good job.
If, family had not done an intervention on
me 23 yrs ago, getting me help I so desperately
needed at that time in my life, no telling
where Id be today or how my little ones
would have ended up.
I have a lot to be grateful for and to never
take anything for granted. My recovery life
I learned from many before me has carried
me thru many twisting, turning changes
in life to get me where I am today.
The promises as mentioned in the Big Book
of AA will come true and become gifts to
be treasured a life time for many one days
at a time I remain sober.
It can be for you too.
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Originally Posted by ScrewdUpInDe
Ok, I didn't want to say anything but hopefully it will help to get it out. Today is my middle daughter's 20th birthday. Had to wish her happy birthday by text because in her words "I HATE you!!!" and won't talk to me or see me. So what's a dad to do but hope she will forgive me in the future.
I'm sure she will turn around, seeing your actions and sobriety will eventually set in.
Stay strong!
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Aasharon, my son is 7 so basically I feel like I am like you years ago. And I want if god permits to post something like you when mini-me is grown up.
He deserves a healthy dad, not half in the bag or hungover and grumpy. This weekend we laughed so hard and had so much fun! I got him a puppy, she's pretty goofy so we had a blast watching her. A sober laugh is worth a billion drunk ones ;-)
Take care
He deserves a healthy dad, not half in the bag or hungover and grumpy. This weekend we laughed so hard and had so much fun! I got him a puppy, she's pretty goofy so we had a blast watching her. A sober laugh is worth a billion drunk ones ;-)
Take care
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Originally Posted by Thepatman
This weekend we laughed so hard and had so much fun! I got him a puppy, she's pretty goofy so we had a blast watching her. A sober laugh is worth a billion drunk ones ;-)
Take care
Take care
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Originally Posted by Thepatman
I agree. I have been following the difficult situation you are facing at this time,
If you can face one of the most painful thing in life and not picking up, than I think I can man up and do this for good Mirecovery.
Nightly prayers your family's way.
If you can face one of the most painful thing in life and not picking up, than I think I can man up and do this for good Mirecovery.
Nightly prayers your family's way.
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