christimc

I I know this is crazy but anyone else ever rationalized drinking with the thought 'I don't NEED a drink every night I WANT it to relax and I've worked hard I deserve it' just curious

MsJax

It is just your brain trying to justify drinking. That's what alcoholics do It's a relief to no longer have to have those mental battles anymore.

christimc

I can't wait to feel relieved I mean I do already somewhat but I like to be down the road further

Thepatman

With time you will learn that the voice is not the part of you that is sober. It's the addiction voice, the beast.

Tell it top shut up and change your mind by doing something else.

christimc

Ty guys I love this group I've Gotton more support here and believe me when it's rough it's great to have y'all to reach out to!

IOAA2

I've used many, most reasons to drink, The sun came up, the sun went down, I opened a pack of cigarettes, I deserve to unwind, It's OK most people drink and on and on with the whispered internal BS.
I was very undisciplined as a result of drinking along with emotional damage it caused as it's not a health drink no matter how it's marketed.

We can control it by not using it.

BE WELL

christimc

Ty

Stoogy

I used to have that voice too, believe me it does phase out through time, I still have a voice but it's my coffee mug asking for a refill☕️☕️
Wishing you well.

PurpleKnight

Not crazy at all!! . . . had that thought on the drive home from work earlier today!! . . . "it's been a long week so far, why not have a beer and relax"!!

The main thing is to not give in!!

biminiblue

Bad habit, isn't it?

I didn't need an excuse. I initially drank for fun. Then I had to drink to feel normal. Then I had to drink to not be miserable. Then I was just miserable.

GracieLou

Yes, for most of my drinking career. I had the "I could stop but I don't want to" phase too.

Don't drink and ride it out.

HumbleNumb

Mine was "well, I might drink but at least I don't ______" OR "So what if I drink, I'm not as bad as ___________"
Its all the same rationalization... and denial.

LBrain

Of course people did that. And of course it didn't work.

trikuza

I've always had a huge problem with anxiety, and this really kicks in on Friday after a week of hard work.

PamperingMe

I always think the same thing about deserving it!! This last Friday was tough. Not going to lie. But I did it.
I hear you on the feelings of deserving a reward. I'm trying mightily to shift my thinking to different rewards. It's a difficult process though,

christimc

That's where I am now just trying to find things to occupy me especially weekends omg Saturday nights and Sunday all day was my thang! But I want to change my thinking and I can so this I seriously need to retrain my brain lol good to know in not alone...I was in such a fog from being hungover or drunk everyday I never thought straight or even smiled

Dee74

I'd use every rationalisation under the sun - my default excuse was 'if you had a life like mine - you'd drink too'.

It's all just lies. Try not to engage with it

D

SoberLeigh

I think that I used every excuse known to God and man; none of the excuses changed the ultimate outcome, though or made me feel any better the next day.