White knuckling it.
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White knuckling it.
3 days sober and everything irritates me. I can barely be civil to my DH.
Yes he annoys me, yes he is overly assertive, yes he has some character defaults, but if I can't overcome this, I will never get sober.
Yes he annoys me, yes he is overly assertive, yes he has some character defaults, but if I can't overcome this, I will never get sober.
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3 days in is rough for EVERYONE Normi 
This is not the way it will always be - things can and do get better
Try making a gratitude list - you might snap the pen and crumple up the sheet of paper a few times.... but it's a good exercise in perspective
D
This is not the way it will always be - things can and do get better
Try making a gratitude list - you might snap the pen and crumple up the sheet of paper a few times.... but it's a good exercise in perspective
D
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I can relate. I don't think I said 5 sentences to my husband the first couple of weeks. I only spoke when absolutely necessary and the rest of the time I avoided him. Try to take some time for yourself if you can. Hot baths, a walk, a drive, bookstore, coffee shop, etc. Hang in there!
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sometimes in the very early recovery days
it's best to stay away from most everyone
I needed a lot of alone time
I was fortunate and could do as I pleased
since I was retired and the wife was working (back to work after my drunken binge)
then it was to many AA meetings
with time spent most every day after the meetings with my Sponsor
then off to church most every week
MM
it's best to stay away from most everyone
I needed a lot of alone time
I was fortunate and could do as I pleased
since I was retired and the wife was working (back to work after my drunken binge)
then it was to many AA meetings
with time spent most every day after the meetings with my Sponsor
then off to church most every week
MM
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I can relate. My husband is sometimes overly loud and he is assertive. Around the time I quit he was still drinking and using and was loud assertive and nuts but I made it through. White knuckling it along the way but I made it. You can too. Hang in there. Plan more positive things for yourself out of the house. Try AA meetings if you need face to face support. Now that I am past the worst he still annoys me at times but I can handle it better. Three days is early still and your emotions are raw. It does get better but still at five months my emotions still see saw. Only less than before. Three days is great!
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It helped me to remember that those feelings of anger/irritation/annoyance were just feelings and they didn't control me. I didn't have to go with them. Take a step back and try to let those feelings go. Congratulations on Day 3.
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