Wisconsin

Someone, somewhere, in the last week or so made mention of the fact that while we have a "Quacking" thread where we can vent about our qualifiers, we do plenty of our own quacking.

So in the spirit of celebrating how far we have all come, and acknowledging the areas where we need to continue to focus our recovery efforts, shall we share some of our own quacking horror stories?

I'll start:

What can I do and say so you won't leave me? (this was during the fight that immediately preceded me finding Al Anon, which was prompted by me discovering he had gotten a woman's phone number in a bar. If ever co-dependency was summed up in a single, insane question, it's this one.)

ladyscribbler

The next time you hurt yourself while you're drunk, I'm going to watch you die before I call 911, then I'll practice my "sad face" in the mirror until the ambulance gets here.

Yeah, I had some anger issues!

involved

How many times have we had this discussion! I have to keep telling you Iam not going to live like this! I am leaving if you dont stop treating me this way! ... Had that discussion for 10 years! He finly found someone else so he didnt have to listen to my empty bitching anymore! Fyi she divorced him in less than 2 years...waiting for someone else to change to make me happy was insanity!

redatlanta

I have eaten more than my share of sh1t sandwiches to avoid an argument. I am not sure why because I argue very well.

I don't do it as much as I used to, but I still will eat the occasional doo doo spread on bread when I should not.

Florence

I'm not going to argue about this anymore. *continues to argue about it for hours, days, years*

embraced2000

.......and I mean it this time!

.......aren't you ashamed of how you behave????

......how can you look yourself in the mirror every day?

......I am not going to accept this any longer (yeah, right)

......don't you love me???

......what can I do????

......here, let me get you to bed before you fall down and hurt yourself.

......here, I fixed you something to eat while you recuperate.

......here, my love, let me do all the damage control. I can take it....you are too fragile right now.

......I understand how horrible it must feel to know that everyone knows about the newspaper article that was written about the latest "incident"...damn, you were born in this county...don't they have anything better to report? don't they have any respect??

lillamy

"I will promise to have sex with you every day if you stop drinking."
(Not my proudest moment. BTW, it didn't work.)

DoubleDragons

To my mother:

Don't worry. Things are as big as you make them.

You just have wine amnesia. (our pleasant term for blackouts)

HopefulinFLA

Lmao! That's detachment at it's finest.

hopeful4

I just want you to say "I WILL NEVER DRINK AGAIN." That's all. He proceeds to say it. I then say, "NOW MEAN IT", which he also says. He proceeds to drink again the next day.

This went on for years until the lightbulb went off a month ago....duh.....

Carlotta

Done it too so you are not alone lol
If you don't quit drinking, I will kill myself


and my favorite "quacker in denial" one which I quacked a lot at the beginning until even I realized how stupid I sounded:
<whiny lovesick apologetic tone>
But you don't understand.... him and I, it's different.

Carlotta

A couple more which I just remembered

If you loved me, you'd go to AA with me..
You hate me, that's why you are drinking isn't it? You want me to relapse

and more recently during my last codie meltdown with my best friend who sadly enough is an alcoholic and also started smoking crack:
>screaming in the phone, I took off the profanities since SR is a family friendly forum<
I m going to call you social worker and tell her you are a crackhead and a drunk so she assigns you a payee and get you some help. You need some bleeping help!
The good thing with that one is almost as soon as I was off the phone, I realized that I was the one who sounded nuts and needed help LOL. Posted it here, made some amends and went no contact for a while until I got re detached...
Even if I have not gotten complete serenity through the program, nowadays I can catch myself when I start...

POAndrea

I daresay that wasn't the only thing that wasn't working!

Carlotta

lmao

SeriousKarma

I'd steal money out of his wallet as he was passed out on the sofa. Then I'd secretly chuckle to my self the next day when he'd open it up and wonder where all of his money went.

firebolt

Ohhh I can't remember anything crazy codie that I've said off hand (that doesn't mean it didn't happen ) but the 20 or so gallons of freshly bought liquor hanging out at the bottom of our septic tank could speak a volume or two.

Carlotta

I did the same thing and that s an amend I owe. My rationale was that he would drink it anyway plus I got a kick seeing him wonder if he had blacked out once again LOL

shil2587

The following evening after a massive row with an ex who ended it by slapping me (first and last time)....

"I am sorry I got upset last night, I shouldn't have got so emotional"....

Does it get more insane than that?

healthyagain

Oh my, I am a professional quacker!

"If you loved me and if this relationship meant anything to you, you would stop."

"I am serious this time."

"This discussion is over."

lillamy

Yep. Me too.

Oh, and then there was the time he almost lost his job for failing a drug test -- he had smoked pot while I was down south visiting family, knowing very well that I had said "if you ever smoke pot again, I will divorce you." He called me and told me he would get divorce papers drawn up and I said, "Oh no, honey, as long as you promise me you will never do it again we will get through this together."