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I am on Day 1... again. I pray for answers. Why am I not 'getting' it. Been in and out for seven flipping years. My husband got it, right off the bat and hasn't had to have a drink since. I can put together a month, sometimes several, only to relapse again. My 27 y/o daughter took her life 5 years ago. It's not my excuse, just my reality. Thanks for listening.
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Welcome StormiNormi
Hello & welcome, StormiNormi. I'm very sorry for the loss of your dear daughter. 
Day 1 is a start and that's awesome!! I just joined SR recently and have found enormous support and wisdom here. And most of all, I'm learning to recover one day at a time.
Glad to have you here with us!
Day 1 is a start and that's awesome!! I just joined SR recently and have found enormous support and wisdom here. And most of all, I'm learning to recover one day at a time.
Glad to have you here with us!
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Hi Stormi....Glad you are here. I noticed that you said your husband got it right away. I know when I compare myself to others it only hinders my progress. Focus on you! We are all unique and respond differently to tragedy. My brother died in a car accident when he was young, my dad got over it, my mother never did!
So far I have found the stories and advice on here to be so helpful....
Like you I am on Day 2....AGAIN! Stay strong and come back frequently
So far I have found the stories and advice on here to be so helpful....
Like you I am on Day 2....AGAIN! Stay strong and come back frequently
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I too lost my SO's grandson Halloween 2009, he was 23 , also he was my partner in my glass business. Was very hard to cope as the rest of his family abandoned us moving out the day he died. I ended up with another DWI in August 2011 over that and other life problems, it was not worth it I assure you , thankfully i'm not drinking now! You can do it! We all know you can! Stay Strong and Well ! Bobby
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Originally Posted by istyme29 
Hi Stormi....Glad you are here. I noticed that you said your husband got it right away. I know when I compare myself to others it only hinders my progress. Focus on you! We are all unique and respond differently to tragedy. My brother died in a car accident when he was young, my dad got over it, my mother never did!
So far I have found the stories and advice on here to be so helpful....
Like you I am on Day 2....AGAIN! Stay strong and come back frequently
So far I have found the stories and advice on here to be so helpful....
Like you I am on Day 2....AGAIN! Stay strong and come back frequently
Most of all as many here say - don't give up, don't quit. And always reach out when you need to.
Hugs and love to you!
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Welcome, StormiNormi. I am very sorry for the loss of your daughter. I am a bereaved parent, also; we learn to "manage the grief" but we never really, really "get over it". Rather like alcoholism, isn't it. There may be recovery but there is no cure. But the good news is there IS recovery.
Glad you found, SR. Let's walk this road together. You can do this.
Glad you found, SR. Let's walk this road together. You can do this.
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Other than some hot flashes, which may be menopause, and some elevated irritation, I am still sober. I am trying to keep my distance from emotiona triggers. ie; my husband. He is very suspicious and neurotic. I caught him smelling my soda yesterday and he sneaks up on me out in the yard when I thought he was out. Make life much like walking on eggshells. I suppose I have given him the right to do so. I did not drink everyday, nor every week; but he never knew when he came home if he'd smell alcohol. He has the nose of a hound, so I am not fooling anyone if I think I can slip a cup.
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I want to thank you all for your welcomes and support. I have been searching for another Mother who lost a child to suicide that has been able to maintain sobriety. I realize Fathers struggle too, but what I need is a woman's take on overcoming the grief and guilt.
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Originally Posted by StormiNormi
I want to thank you all for your welcomes and support. I have been searching for another Mother who lost a child to suicide that has been able to maintain sobriety. I realize Fathers struggle too, but what I need is a woman's take on overcoming the grief and guilt.
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