Brilliant in its Insanity!
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Rocklin, CA USA
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Brilliant in its Insanity!
Have you ever felt when talking with your A that the manipulativeness they use is almost brilliant?
Here is a doozy I would like to share.
Last September the A (I refuse now to refer to him as "my" A.....he is just the A now. Part of mt quest for detachment!) received a DUI. He was home drunker than a skunk. I offered to drive him to a hotel and even pay for it just to get him out of the house so the rest of us could have some peace and sanity. All this after an awful, stressfull weekend with him and the police being called for his erratic behavior just the night before. Anyway, he was starting to get mean and nasty and my daughter picked up the phone and called the police. He ran out the door and ended up getting a DUI and goiung to jail for a few hours.
Of course this is my fault......lol.....god forbid he be accountable for any of his own actions.
His daughter got in trouble for drinking (she is 15) in March, then last month got arrested for shoplifting.
He talked at me the other day (not with.....at) and said "You know, Melissa never got in any trouble until I was arrested for my DUI".
I started to laugh because I knew what he was trying to say subliminally and recognized it immediately. He was saying "Well Jen, if your daughter didn't call the cops on me and have me arrested then Melissa would have never gotten in trouble".
I told him he was brilliant in his insanity and he smiled because he thinks I just complimented him. I just wanted to say DUUUUUUUHHHHHH!
Isn't it amazing how they twist things to avoid taking resposibility? I find it amazing the justifications they come up with.
Last night I was standing in the garage and suddenly the garage door opens about a foot and in comes sliding a six-pack. The A has no idea I was out there. Then he comes in a few minutes later and says "oooops".
UUUURGGGG
Another observance I have made is that the memory is so selective. When he refers to a specific event, what he remembers changes daily.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful day!
Back to work I go!
Jenny
P.S. One of my friends called me yesterday stating that her and her husband are helping another friend of ours move out of the house. She is leaving her finance who is also an A. I am sooooooo gaining strength from that! My friend is good. She knew just what she was doing by telling me! She went through this too!
Here is a doozy I would like to share.
Last September the A (I refuse now to refer to him as "my" A.....he is just the A now. Part of mt quest for detachment!) received a DUI. He was home drunker than a skunk. I offered to drive him to a hotel and even pay for it just to get him out of the house so the rest of us could have some peace and sanity. All this after an awful, stressfull weekend with him and the police being called for his erratic behavior just the night before. Anyway, he was starting to get mean and nasty and my daughter picked up the phone and called the police. He ran out the door and ended up getting a DUI and goiung to jail for a few hours.
Of course this is my fault......lol.....god forbid he be accountable for any of his own actions.
His daughter got in trouble for drinking (she is 15) in March, then last month got arrested for shoplifting.
He talked at me the other day (not with.....at) and said "You know, Melissa never got in any trouble until I was arrested for my DUI".
I started to laugh because I knew what he was trying to say subliminally and recognized it immediately. He was saying "Well Jen, if your daughter didn't call the cops on me and have me arrested then Melissa would have never gotten in trouble".
I told him he was brilliant in his insanity and he smiled because he thinks I just complimented him. I just wanted to say DUUUUUUUHHHHHH!
Isn't it amazing how they twist things to avoid taking resposibility? I find it amazing the justifications they come up with.
Last night I was standing in the garage and suddenly the garage door opens about a foot and in comes sliding a six-pack. The A has no idea I was out there. Then he comes in a few minutes later and says "oooops".
UUUURGGGG
Another observance I have made is that the memory is so selective. When he refers to a specific event, what he remembers changes daily.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful day!
Back to work I go!
Jenny
P.S. One of my friends called me yesterday stating that her and her husband are helping another friend of ours move out of the house. She is leaving her finance who is also an A. I am sooooooo gaining strength from that! My friend is good. She knew just what she was doing by telling me! She went through this too!
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Jenny!
I so totally love that phrase! "Brilliant in it's insanity"! <img border="0" alt="[Yellow]" title="" src="graemlins/../graemlins/yellow.gif" />
I will also be chuckling over the 6 pack for the rest of the afternoon.
Hugs,
Smoke
I so totally love that phrase! "Brilliant in it's insanity"! <img border="0" alt="[Yellow]" title="" src="graemlins/../graemlins/yellow.gif" />
I will also be chuckling over the 6 pack for the rest of the afternoon.
Hugs,
Smoke
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I love that you are standing back and observing...if you can do that it is all pretty amazing isn't it?
The sliding six pack is classic! I once came up from the basement and the treadmill and Ward was taking a slug out of the vodka bottle that he keeps under the sink...the look on his face was like one of those cartoo charactures when their expressions move real fast...and he sais "What are YOU doing"
Hysterical!
Have a great day!
The sliding six pack is classic! I once came up from the basement and the treadmill and Ward was taking a slug out of the vodka bottle that he keeps under the sink...the look on his face was like one of those cartoo charactures when their expressions move real fast...and he sais "What are YOU doing"
Hysterical!
Have a great day!
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The sliding Six Pack was pretty funny. I started to laugh at the utter "unbelievablness" of it. Nothing like someone who is trying to sneak something and not be sly enough to not get caught!
The sliding Six Pack was pretty funny. I started to laugh at the utter "unbelievablness" of it. Nothing like someone who is trying to sneak something and not be sly enough to not get caught!
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I laughed out loud when I read the sliding six pack. If it was my A, he would've tried to blame it on the neighborhood kids trying to get him in trouble...That's really been an excuse tried on me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> Didn't believe him but gave him an a A for effort!
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Jenny
This story is a hoot. I can see the expression on his face - and good for you for keeping yourself in a good place with all this.
When my son lies, there is ALWAYS a tow truck driver somewhere in the story. He used to drive tow truck years ago, and when he worked with my husband he met many more. Often I'll be listening and buying in to what he is saying....then up pops the tow truck driver...and I know it's a whopper.
"I was at my meeting and ran into "Tony the Rat" (a driver) and then went for a coffee with my sponsor."...LIE!! "I was heading home with the change and I ran into "Skiz" (another driver) and I lent him $20. You know Skiz is okay - he'll pay me back Thurday. He needed gas to finish his shift."...LIE. To this day, my son doesn't know ANY of his "giveaways", and he thinks his stories are "brilliant" too.
But a sliding beercase!!! I can just imagine.
This story is a hoot. I can see the expression on his face - and good for you for keeping yourself in a good place with all this.
When my son lies, there is ALWAYS a tow truck driver somewhere in the story. He used to drive tow truck years ago, and when he worked with my husband he met many more. Often I'll be listening and buying in to what he is saying....then up pops the tow truck driver...and I know it's a whopper.
"I was at my meeting and ran into "Tony the Rat" (a driver) and then went for a coffee with my sponsor."...LIE!! "I was heading home with the change and I ran into "Skiz" (another driver) and I lent him $20. You know Skiz is okay - he'll pay me back Thurday. He needed gas to finish his shift."...LIE. To this day, my son doesn't know ANY of his "giveaways", and he thinks his stories are "brilliant" too.
But a sliding beercase!!! I can just imagine.
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