LookingForHelp3

So I started dating a guy who is an ex heroin addict. Doesn't bother me in the slightest bit. Has been clean about 10 months, never relapsed, goes to meetings 5/6 nights a week and has a sponsor. Recently his sponsor told him that he needs to stop dating or he is going to relapse. Hearing this I told him I'm going to give him space and have him focus on himself. I'm trying to get information to help be supportive. I've found al-anon meetings that I would like to attend. What's the best advice someone can give me. Cause I really like this guy and want to be as supportive as I can. Thanks all!

Thepatman

Welcome to SR.

You will have great support here.

LookingForHelp3

Thank you very much! Looking forward to it!

Altoids

I love that you want to do whatever he needs to stay healthy. THAT is awesome of you.

Wishing you both lots of luck and love and sending hugs and prayers.

least

I don't believe it's the job of a sponsor to tell him how to run his life. A sponsor's job is to guide the sponsee thru the steps, not to ditch his gf.

I'd ask him directly if he wants "his space" or if he's just doing what his sponsor told him. Besides, the "suggestion" is to not do anything major in the first year and you said he's been clean for ten months.

Welcome to SR!

LookingForHelp3

Thank you very much. Those words mean a lot to me. :-*

LookingForHelp3

That's what I figured with a sponsor but I'm not going to argue over it. I told him I'm going to give him his space, he said he didn't want space but should take it. I don't want to interfere with recovery and be responsible for any relapse. Plus, If you care about someone let them go, if they come back, they were yours I stick by these words and want him to focus on getting better to have a bright and happy future.

LookingForHelp3

Now my next problem is do I tell him that I'm going to do all these things, meetings, forums, etc. I told him I'm going to give him his space and don't want to bombard him.