Bernadette777

Hi All,
Just felt like texting the ExAbf because I was around his type of family & background & speaking the language. What a Stupid a-- of him for not choosing the good we had & could of had. I really want to text & shout at him. Tell me to hold my ground. The summer is coming.. The sunshine & the moonlight ! I'm pissed at him! I haven't text in 1 month & 2 whole days. He sucks. There. Okay. I hope everybody has a blessed evening & my prayers for all are out there. Love, Bernadette777

lillamy

Don't do it.
Nothing good can come from texting him. Only more pain.

Hang in there!!!

Hammer

Delete the Contact/Number.

You know how, right?

LBrain

All those people used to say, "Take your thumbs out of yer *** and do something." I guess this would a good time to recommend the opposite?

DON'T TEXT AND LIVE

Pia

Bernadette777 - You have been going back and forth with this for a few days now. I completely understand it. However, what good will it do?

Do you think he is going to magically understand what he is doing and fall deeply in love and change over night like the movies?

I hope I'm not coming across as insensitive. I am just trying to ask you to ask yourself what good is it going to do in the long run?

Lets say you call him and get "your point" across to him and you feel vindicated how long do you think that feeling is going to last?

The more you learn about detachment the better you will feel.

This is your life and how much time you choose to spend thinking and obsessive over every detail about him is only robbing your time. Clearly he isn't trying to change.

dandylion

Bernadette---one thing that I found that helps when you feel yourself "weakening" is to deliberately remember a really bad time in the relationship. Especiall, remember how bad you felt while it was happening. As a matter of fact--it helps to actually make a list on paper of as many bad events in the relationship as you can think of--and carry it around with you for "emergencies"....LOL.

With the week-end approaching.....can you put some structured plans into place that will keep you occupied. Especially, plans that include interacting with other people.

"A day at a time".

You are going to get there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are doing great!

dandylion

Bernadette777

I love you guys!!! I just took a deep breath. Thank you with all my heart. You guys ROCK!! Thank you all again... I needed that! Huge moment to remember -- when he wanted to take on 6 people at a bar fight. I don't want that type of life. Xoxo luv to all

Pia

Bernadette777- Like dandylion said you are doing great.!!!!

Live

Good job! You just made your day more peaceful.

Bernadette777

Thanks for taking time out to respond to me. Xo

Lyssy

You are obsessing. You need to get it out of you head. Go to a meeting (f2f or online), go for a walk, got to a movie, call a friend (don't talk about him lol).

Of course you could post here!

Stay strong.