KDD

Hi!
I am new and trying to figure this out.

Anna

Hi and Welcome,

I'm glad you found us.

Being depressed in early recovery is pretty typical. Alcohol is a depressant and on top of that, most of us have created problems in our lives that we need to deal with.

Unmotivated though - that's not good. Do you want to stop drinking, because you need to really want it to make it work?

Aarryckha

Welcome to SR!

There's lots of folks here to help and support you.

KDD

Haven't drank since nov 15

Anna

That's great! Good work!

Dee74

Hi and Welcome KDD

I find support makes a big difference - I hope you will too

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rangerdanger

That is exactly how I feel right now my friend... Sort of like I am sinking.
However, this too shall pass. Best thing I can do is talk to some folks in recovery and/or get to a meeting. Hang in there!

KDD

Thanks I am learning about this. That I am not alone.

neferkamichael

KDD, Haven't drank since nov 15 ? You are FANTASTIC, congratulations, and to SR. Goin on 4 years sober now and have had bouts of depression myself and I'm still trying to figure it out too. Rootin for ya.

SoberLeigh

Congrats on almost 5 months of sobriety, KDD, and welcome to SR. Glad that you have joined us. As Dee mentioned, support can really make a difference and SR is a great place for support.

LBrain

welcome KDD, wasn't sure what you meant by unmotivated...
I have 96 days. And I am totally unmotivated. But not unmotivated to not drink. Just going through a sort of funk. I'm emotionally motivated but get distracted easily and can't stay on task unless I completely delve into something. Otherwise I piddle around and then end up on SR forum. But I did break away to go to a meeting tonight - new meeting for me.

cusper

Welcome KDD, I am not too far behind you in my sobriety. I have the same feelings you have. I don't exactly know what I was expecting but I think in some ways I thought I would have it all together if I stopped drinking. And I thought I would be the picture of health and optimism after a month or so of sobriety. Although I am so happy I am not hungover I feel like I am emotionally... and logically unstable. Most people say they really struggled and after a year things began to really turn around. Others are earlier. I think it has to do with the level of damage we have done and the level of work we do to change. I feel like I am in the same boat as you. A bit depressed and decently unmotivated.However that being said I am not fighting it. I am just curled up in a blanket and accepting the lack of both and hoping it rides out. I hope you keep posting and reading. This site helps tremendously. It's the only place I can come to talk to people who understand (AA meetings are far from me). There are a lot of great book suggestions too. Post when you need feedback. It really helps.

KDD

Thank you B
I am motivated to not drink.
I just wait the hours out to make it to another day. Finding sr has helped me learn about what I am going through. Great tips on how to get out of this funk
Main thing is to get up and go to a meeting. Find a sponsor and try to deal with all the stupid things I did while drinking I have so much shame
I can make things better. Finding a group is tops for me to do.
Thanks

KDD

Thanks cusper

Brooke1234

I feel the same way.... Blah. But hopefully we can get to a place where it feels better. The other way is not working....change is hard.

KateL

Everyone is different but give yourself time. Everything passes. I still have off days/weeks even after a few years sober but it always passes. xxxxx

GroundhogDay

I'm attending a conference today and tomorrow in a field that is not my own. Figured it would give me a chance to meet some new people and think outside the box a little. Just signing up to do something different and travel a little with a friend who is also attending is motivating me. It's good to break the routine I think. Will need to avoid wine with dinner, however. My friend is not a heavy drinker, but she will have a glass of wine with dinner. No booze events at the conference to worry about.

LBrain

Interesting that the meeting I attended last night picked "This too shall pass" as the subject. After I posted last night I decided to not "wait" for it to pass. That I have to "make" it pass.
Enjoy your day all. Got things to do.