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Hello, I'm new here
Hello, My name is Dan. About a month ago I got my husband to go see a couples counselor with me. Life was pretty bad between us and not a day went by without some type of argument or verbal abuse. The counselor suggested AA for Larry and he has been going to a meeting once or twice a day for the past week. Al-Anon was strongly suggested for me also. After a web search I found this forum as well as MODAT. Gosh, this is all so overwhelming.
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Hi Dan,
It is overwhelming. I know I resisted the thought of Al-Anon for a long time. Part of it was I was angry because I felt like I wasn't the one with the problem, so why should I "go get help"? But part of it was also that... I felt like if I walked through those doors, I would have to admit that my husband was an alcoholic. And I thought if I admitted that, I couldn't un-admit it and continue shoving the problem under the carpet. I was afraid that I would have to take some kind of action.
Addiction is hell. For the addict and the people who love the addict. You're in a good place here -- lots of experience, lots of compassion, lots of (sometimes uncomfortable) truths. I'm glad you found us!
It is overwhelming. I know I resisted the thought of Al-Anon for a long time. Part of it was I was angry because I felt like I wasn't the one with the problem, so why should I "go get help"? But part of it was also that... I felt like if I walked through those doors, I would have to admit that my husband was an alcoholic. And I thought if I admitted that, I couldn't un-admit it and continue shoving the problem under the carpet. I was afraid that I would have to take some kind of action.
Addiction is hell. For the addict and the people who love the addict. You're in a good place here -- lots of experience, lots of compassion, lots of (sometimes uncomfortable) truths. I'm glad you found us!
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Hello, And Thank You everyone. I have known Larry was an alcoholic since we met. For some reason I believed and actually still believe that all will somehow be better. To me, right now, better means a day without yelling.
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Meetings are good. Sometimes I found I was stuck in my own thinking, but when I heard my own thoughts come out of someone else's mouth in a meeting, I could spot how absurd they sounded.
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