Nend2014

I seems to have an issue with the weekend. I tell myself all week long that I will no drink this weekend, but I cant help myself. Because of bozzze I am overweight and out of shape and unhealthy.
I want to be healthy but I cant stop drinking on the weekend.
what can i do???
I drink wine, beers, bourbon, and then finish my evening alone in my bathroom with a 6 packs of beers and a pack of cigarettes
I need help

Aarryckha

Nend, you just need to commit yourself to not picking up that first drink. Start there. It's not easy, but you can do it.

mcviking

If you really want to stop, you can. Go to a meeting. Get active. Don't tell yourself that just because you are a weekend warrior you don't have a problem. I did that for years and now I really messed up my life big time for "casual use". Only you can know if you have a problem, but if you are on here it might be time to take some action. Hang in there. You are not alone.

Dee74

Hi and welcome Nend

If weekends are a problem, what about planning some things to do that don't involve alcohol?

You'll find a lot of support here too - post when you're feeling vulnerable

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BrendonM

Weekends are my weakness to. I wish it was as simple as asking for solutions and getting one, but really this has to come from within you. I find that thinking about the shame and regret I feel helps me. Just try to want not to drink and smoke before you do as much as you wish you hadn't afterwards. Sometimes it works for me, but sometimes I still falter.

1newcreation

Personally, @ the beginning twasnt that I couldn't stop but didnt want to. So when the pain got great enough & unbearable, got back into the rooms of recovery & did what was suggested. Result? Amazing beyond words

least

I hope our support can help you stop drinking for good.

Nend2014

Has the weekend comes to an end for me, I am proud to say that I went without drinking a drop of alcool durinng the weekend. Its a matter of fact that I havent drink a drop of alcool in 7 days now.
I have been exercising and meditating and i feel great. at least I think so.

Thank you all for your support. I will keep you posted on my progress.

seaside

that is awesome....now I need to do the same

IOAA2

Ned that's a great accomplishment, it works one minute to one day at a time and your commitment to not drink is vital. You to yourself that it's possible. Someone told me years ago not to think about drinking and concentrate on other thoughts which helped a lot. Reading and posting here is a big help along with going to a lot of meetings and sharing if you can.

BE WELL

bluncain

Nend, it seems you are at the point where you make a decision about your alcohol use/abuse.

It's not great being fat, unfit and feeling like road kill. Nor may I say is it a good look. There are people out there who specialize in finding drunks attractive, so you still got a shot.

Personally I don't recommend the above, a drunk is just a slow motion truck pile up. You binge now and it worries you, it Never worried me. It was the all day drinking alone that was hard to dispute. Dangerous drinking is almost never static, you most likely will reach for the bottle mid-week.

All this is fine, we live thankfully in free Democracies. You can if you wish drink yourself to financial and social ruin, destroy your health and looks, they are yours to destroy.

Is this what you want from life, if you think somewhere deep inside you deserve this, You DO NOT. You have a basic right to love, joy and the persuit of happiness.

But like all of life's nice stuff, you gotta work for it. Fight and kick, play dirty. Isn't that the American Way.

Holli

Good job, nend!

Nend2014

Well it has been 2 weeks now, exactaly 15 days since I had a drink of alcool.
I feel strong, my wife drinks around me all the time and it doesnt seems to bother me.
Now next weekend I have a wedding to attent, that could be problematic I think.

Any good advices???

seaside

Hi Nend, Do you really have to go to the reception??? I think so early in your recovery maybe it's best to stay away from party situations. Maybe just attend the wedding? If your wife knows that you are trying very hard to stay away from booze then hopefully she'll understand?

FreeOwl

AA is open on weekends....

give that a shot for a while!

Welcome!

LBrain

Congrats on 2 weeks Nend2014. Fist of all, does your wife support your 'not drinking'?
Aside from going to weekend meetings which I highly recommend, she should also be a support mechanism. If you are committed to not drinking then ask your wife to "babysit" you at the wedding. And also - this is important - make sure you have the ability to leave the scene if the urge over powers you. And make sure your wife knows this ahead of time.
Good Luck. Stay strong.

doggonecarl

Attend the ceremony, skip the reception.

Nend2014

Its my niece wedding, kind of hard to stay away!!! But I think I'll be allright, especially since we have to drive pretty far after the reception to go back to the hotel.
thanks for your reply!!!

Dee74

This is for Thanksgiving, but the tips apply to most social occasions Nend:
Crying Out Now: Thanksgiving Survival Guide

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BigBobby

My Sponsor told me "You have to be selfish to be selfless". I sobered up last July and 7 days into sobriety it was my mates wedding who I had known for years. I did not go because I did not want to put myself in that situation. I always put my own recovery first. I remain sober and although I did not to attend the wedding we get on better than ever and he is pleased I am remain sober.
It is your descision to go and if yuo feel Ok then thats fine, just remember to always put your sobriety first!