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lillyknitting
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Loughton, Essex, England
Posts: 638
Why don't you not go out, then you won't be even more tempted. In the beginning this may seem hard, I stay in more & more, doing my hobby, knitting. Reading. Watch tv, walk my doggie, cook, clean. Then, when you wake up in the morning hangover free you will never regret not drinking. Hold on in there, it's really worth it, I can speak from experience.
I think you've answered your own question. Stay away from your drinking friends. Find something to do at home. Get rid of liquor in your house. If you went 9 days before, you can do it again. You can get there one day at a time.
hi sober
don't beat yourself up, we have all slipped I have more times than I change socks....
keep fighting , maybe don't go out for a wee while, if you do go to the cinema or for a walk, phone someone, maybe get some new friends ? I found out that real friends accept you cannot drink and will be there, others say your dull and boring I'd say get rid of those types
write down where you think you went wrong, what mood were you in ? who were you with ?
keep going, you WILL BEAT THIS
don't beat yourself up, we have all slipped I have more times than I change socks....
keep fighting , maybe don't go out for a wee while, if you do go to the cinema or for a walk, phone someone, maybe get some new friends ? I found out that real friends accept you cannot drink and will be there, others say your dull and boring I'd say get rid of those types
write down where you think you went wrong, what mood were you in ? who were you with ?
keep going, you WILL BEAT THIS
You have those 9 days, pick yourself up right away. That's what we do, we keep at this until something really clicks.
Be patient with yourself, you're here with us, so that's a good sign, you want help with this.
Go out once and week and have fun. Believe it or not, it's more FUN going out and not drinking.
Originally Posted by sobermeplease
Why can't I go out once a week and drink?
You can gain a lot of strength and sense of peace when you accept that you aren't like everyone else. We stray from the "normal" curve because we cannot consume alcohol.
And yet, who says we have to all be the same? Who says we are actually all the same?
A big step for me was learning that it's okay to be different, and that there is nothing wrong with that.
And yet, who says we have to all be the same? Who says we are actually all the same?
A big step for me was learning that it's okay to be different, and that there is nothing wrong with that.
Hey sobermeplease. That's a long stretch between your joining and your second post. A long time to struggle and I imagine a lot of drinking inbetween attempts.
After 35 years of daily drinking I finally have achived sobriety. Wish it had been sooner, and when I see young people attempting it, I really root for them because it only gets more difficult the longer you drink.
Looking back, with three + years sober, I better understand my constant failures to achive sobriety. Failing to really want it was a major one. Every time attempted to get sober, I really didn't want to quit drinking. What I wanted was to drink without the consequences: The hangovers, the stupid behaviors, the moral lapses, the shame, and the physical toll drinking was taking. I wasted years doing that, chasing the fun and trying to avoid the misery. I always failed.
Spare yourself the grief of wishing for what you can't have. If you could drink "normally" you'd already be doing that. Quit. Accept never drinking again. Embrace life sober.
good luck
After 35 years of daily drinking I finally have achived sobriety. Wish it had been sooner, and when I see young people attempting it, I really root for them because it only gets more difficult the longer you drink.
Looking back, with three + years sober, I better understand my constant failures to achive sobriety. Failing to really want it was a major one. Every time attempted to get sober, I really didn't want to quit drinking. What I wanted was to drink without the consequences: The hangovers, the stupid behaviors, the moral lapses, the shame, and the physical toll drinking was taking. I wasted years doing that, chasing the fun and trying to avoid the misery. I always failed.
Spare yourself the grief of wishing for what you can't have. If you could drink "normally" you'd already be doing that. Quit. Accept never drinking again. Embrace life sober.
good luck
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If you have a drinking problem then you can't go out once in a while and drink, simple as that. Accept this fact and get on with your sober life. I relapsed more times than I'd care to admit but kept trying til I finally got it right. Keep at it.
It's ok Soberme. I always think of this sober thing as a journey. If you're learning to paint you can't expect to become Van Gogh in a week. Keep working at it. I know when I slipped up after 30 days my alcoholic mind was telling me "man I gotta get 30 days to get back to where I was before I took that drink" No..one day at a time. I will be sober today. This site is so wonderful but just as wonderful is attending an actual meeting. I'm going to make a note that if I'm tempted I need to get my *ss to a meeting. I always seem to find something that puts things into perspective.
I was tempted last night and made a meeting and met someone there who has a neighbor who has 3 kids is separated and is looking for a liver. So sad. Today is today and I want to be sober.
I was tempted last night and made a meeting and met someone there who has a neighbor who has 3 kids is separated and is looking for a liver. So sad. Today is today and I want to be sober.
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