My exah died on Monday
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My exah died on Monday
He had stage 4 melanoma and while I don't know exactly how he died (i last talked with him late Saturday night and found him dead early Monday) I do think he went peacefully and quickly. Keep him and my daughter in your thoughts...I am surprising myself with the extent of my grief but am happy that I did for him what I thought was best and didn't listen to people who tried to convince me to let it go because he was an alcoholic...I allways stuck to my guns that I was going to make sure he had somebody as an active caregiver in his life while he battled this disease.
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My thoughts are with you MQ. I did not have your fortitude, my AXH died a sad lonely drunk as I was happily enjoying my new life. I grieved the loss of his potential more than the Los of him; I shed my tears when we parted. But I do still carry guilt that I enabled him for so long and then left him to try to cope alone. You maybe gave him more than some felt he deserved, but your compassionate actions show you to be a wonderful forgiving person.
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So sorry for your loss. You will never regret being there for him in the end. My AH died while we were going through a divorce but when he became terminal in the hospital I had to be there and take solace in the fact that he did not die alone. Forgiveness is freeing.
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