ReadyAtLast

I've had a lousy day today,a lousy week really. I got into a situation that probably got out of hand,things were said that were uncomfortable etc. I don't like confrontation and like things to be pleasant so it isn't like me to raise an issue. Sometimes you just have to though. When people aren't used to you doing it they don't like it. Anyway I just kept saying to myself "just do the next right thing" which I think I did.

Anyway, later this afternoon sat with a friend talking about the day she said "oh I'll look forward to wine tonight after all this" I just laughed. The thought of drinking didn't cross my mind.

To all those early on in sobriety you will feel like this. Bad things happen,uncomfortable situations occur but there will come a point when reaching for a drink will not spring to mind.

Jeni26

Thanks for your post RAL. I feel the same...I've had a tough few days at work too. I never crave a drink any more to deal with that stuff...I honestly never thought that was possible. But it is.

A nice hot bubble bath, and an evening laying on the sofa eating chocolate, that's all it takes now.

ReadyAtLast

Thanks Jeni.Sorry you've had a rough week too. I tell myself I have no control over what has been said and done and just let it go.Hoping things improve next week.

Bubble bath and chocolate are excellent ideas

mecanix

Having a drink because of a bad day would only make tomorrow a bad day too .

Learning to accept stuff and let it go has been a far better way of dealing with it all for me than drinking ever was .

Keep on growing and living RAL

Bestwishes, m

aasharon90

There are many things in life that really
test us all, whether alcoholics/addicts
or not. Im the alcoholic and boy did life
test me before, during and after alcohol.

Im just glad I was taught about addiction
and why I used alcohol to numb lifes troubles
for many yrs. Im also glad that what I learned
and the tools provided for me to follow and
use in my program of recovery has helped
my put the plug in the jug for the past 23 yrs.

There are so many things I can reach for
that are healthy and not poison that would
kill me.

There are many people out there in the
world that hate their jobs, that are miserable
just like I was, and keep plowing away finding
ways to cope. I don't know what they use
and it's not my concern, however, I need
to take care of me, my serenity and sobriety
by doing whatever I need to achieve it.

At my age, I have given up the work force
after trying to the best of my ability to fit
in and now focus on the second half of my life.

This will definitely be a test ahead of me
as my husband who is 10yrs.older than I
will retired in a few months. All I know is,
I have to use my program and faith to guide
us, protect us and not give us anymore than
what we can handle.

Retirement should be fun and enjoyable and
I pray we can achieve it for yrs to come happy,
healthy, honest and sober together.

Stay strong each day you are sober.

KateL

You're so right and your post will inspire others xx

Dee74

Great post RAL and it's really true...

I remember the first time I had some really hard stuff happening...I was amazed wanting a drink was not my first impulse anymore - it wasn't my second impulse either, it just never happened....must be how the normal folks live

D

least

I used to get a little 'thrill' when going past the drive thru where I used to get my wine. I was tickled that I no longer needed to go there.

MIRecovery

On the suckage scale of 1 to 10 my life is at about a 14 but I understand that there no problem a drink won't make worse.

Drinking is the problem not the solution

courage2

Great post, Ready! Inspiring -- there are still times when I think of a drink but it's a lot more now like, "when I was active in my addiction I would've used X as an excuse to drink," not like I really contemplate doing it. It does get better!

Mel12

Mecanix, this rings so true for me. Thank you.