Notimetoloose

Hi all, I am attending a wedding today, lots of family dynamics at this wedding.

For reasons I won't go into now it has the potential to be a tough day.

I am about 3 and a half months sober and use SR and AVRT.

I really want to remain alcohol free, however with the huge emotional impact of this day, I am aware that can change impulsively within seconds.
I am very happy that you are all here to allow me to express my fears and reservations about the day.

I will tell my AV where to go today when she shows her skanky self, I will not drink today...

snipe

You can do to this. We've got your back. Remember you can take a time out any time you want, even if it is just to run to the rest room for a couple minutes to regain your thoughts. Also, you don't need to stay until the end of the reception when things get sketchy.

Notimetoloose

Thanks Snipe, I can leave early and I will, I was thinking that as soon as the formalities are over I will leave...

doggonecarl

At nine months sober, I went to a wedding, my step son's, and I was dreading it because my wife's ex-husband and his family would be there. I was the interloper. The discomfort was going to be excruciating, I was sure, and drive me to drink.

Well, it wasn't as bad as I thought. Didn't drink. Didn't really feel like it either. I learned that discomfort wouldn't kill me and that prepared me for the next time I would have to face it, without alcohol.

So bear in mind that nothing at the wedding/reception can make you drink. And beat a hasty retreat.

GotGrace

Good luck, Notime. I am confident that you can do it. It's good that you have a plan to leave early. Plan a treat (non-alcoholic) for yourself for when you get home!

Notimetoloose

Thanks doggonecarl, I get it and that's what I am going to hang onto. Amazing the power that we can give other people...needing a drink just to cope with being around them.
I won't drink today.

2bhappier

Best to you! Let us know how it goes. Sounds like you are well aware of the potential triggers. You can do it!

KateL

Good for you. Have a great time and fall into bed tired and sober xxxxx

Anna

I know you can get through this, and you will be stronger for it.

least

Enjoy your time at the wedding.

LSC1

Notimetoloose, always have a non-alcoholic drink in your hand.... cuppa tea / coffee or soft drink ..

Notimetoloose

Thank you everyone for your support, I am getting ready to leave for the wedding now and will nod and smile my way through the day sober.
I really can't thank you all enough, I posted as extra accountability.
I will let you know how I it all goes. xx