Springs

I think my RAH may have relapsed after over seven months of sobriety. I don't know, but something's different. I'm taking care of myself, being kind, and seeing what unfolds,but I could use some hope and empathy right now.

CodeJob

Springs, sadly if your instincts are on alert, it is likely something is afoot. Pulling for you to remain detached as best you can as the situation reveals itself.

Raider

Ugh. I hope you're wrong. Blessings Friend.

Hammer

Just double-down on YOUR program.

The canoe knows where to go.

We just paddle.

shirlygirly

I've been through this before. Please hang in there and use this as a reminder of why you need to take YOUR program seriously. If you put your program first, things will work out as they should.

FireSprite

I hate that feeling too - just keep taking care of yourself like everyone has pointed out. Maybe even add in some extra self-care if you can - long walks, extra catnaps, comfort foods, etc. Hang in there!

hopeful4

Keep going forward. Someone said yesterday, the Sun will come out again tomorrow. Big tight hugs.

Recovering2

Remember "More will be revealed". If you're not sure, but suspicious, then don't jump the gun. He may have relapsed, or you may have misunderstood something. I made the mistake of thinking my RABF had relapsed once, I was wrong. I was really glad I focused on my program, and didn't say anything to him.
If he didn't, then this will pass. If he did, there isn't anything you can do about it so stay focused on you. (((hugs)))

Catherine628

I am so sorry. I'm going through something similar. The worst part is I feel like all my hope has been shattered. I had that feeling that something was off but I didn't nag or freak out this time. Sure enough more was revealed.

I'm just trying to keep working on myself and not let the focus slip completely back on him like it has in the past.

HopefulinFLA

Oh I know that feeling and it's no fun. I hope you're wrong.

Hugs!

Springs

I hope I'm wrong too. I was all ready to angrily confront him (which would have done nothing) but reading your kind words and support has given me the (momentary) strength to see if more is revealed.

HopefulinFLA

I think asking him in a concerned manner is not necessarily bad, confronting him in an angry manner is counterproductive and probably won't be helpful. If you feel you must ask, then wait until you're calm cool and collected.

Springs

I have mentioned that he looks unwell and he says he is "tired" or "sad." I've asked if there is any way I can be helpful and he says no.