Woke up
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Woke up
I woke up this morning and I can't do this any more. I am so ashamed of myself. I am a perfectionist during the day and a wine lush at night. I panic when I do not have a box of wine in the house. I am so sick of waking up in a panic and trying to remember what I did the night before. I went out for a ladies night last night. We went to a lovely restaurant and I had on a cute new outfit. It always seems so normal and so happy. I don't know many women who do not drink wine. But there is nothing lovely about loosing my credit card and my phone and not remembering the end of the night. I can't take it any more.
I have been where you are now. In my early recovery it was important for me to keep these memories alive as far as doing whatever I needed to do to not pick up a drink. I, too, loved drinking wine. The wine, however, did not love me back. This is a great site for support We have all been where you have and we understand. Take care of yourself today.
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Welcome to Sober Recovery. I'm not 100% sure, but is your plan to stop drinking? If so, you are right where you want to be! Tons of support and information here, so read and ask questions.
Welcome to Sober Recovery. I'm not 100% sure, but is your plan to stop drinking? If so, you are right where you want to be! Tons of support and information here, so read and ask questions.
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I woke up this morning and I can't do this any more. I am so ashamed of myself. I am a perfectionist during the day and a wine lush at night. I panic when I do not have a box of wine in the house. I am so sick of waking up in a panic and trying to remember what I did the night before. I went out for a ladies night last night. We went to a lovely restaurant and I had on a cute new outfit. It always seems so normal and so happy. I don't know many women who do not drink wine. But there is nothing lovely about loosing my credit card and my phone and not remembering the end of the night. I can't take it any more.
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Actually that is quite lovely compated to wrapping your car around a lightpost, or crashing into an entire family in a minivan. You know it could have been a lot worse, atleast losing some stuff in a blackout scared you. For me that was very minor. Nope, not every woman drinks wine, just the ones you hang out with. I wonder why that is? You love to drink wine, so you hang around people who also love to drink wine and now you are trying to get and stay sober but you cant because you dont want to lose your best friends in the world. #1 best friend is the bottle.
Hi Carejoy,
Former wine drinker here, and just a few months sober. I remember feeling the way you describe.
It's that feeling the next morning that helped me quit. It's been such a relief to give it up.
I'm glad you are here. This place has been very comforting to me.
Former wine drinker here, and just a few months sober. I remember feeling the way you describe.
It's that feeling the next morning that helped me quit. It's been such a relief to give it up.
I'm glad you are here. This place has been very comforting to me.
Welcome, Carejoy!
I can relate to how you feel. I finally got so sick of the hangovers and the blackouts. The anxiety and self-loathing that accompanied the blackouts just got so intense, that I couldn't take it any more. For a long time--years--I wanted to quit, but also wanted to drink. I've been sober over a month, and my anxiety is all but gone, and I don't hate myself anymore. This is so much better than drinking.
Hope you keep posting. This is a very supportive community.
I can relate to how you feel. I finally got so sick of the hangovers and the blackouts. The anxiety and self-loathing that accompanied the blackouts just got so intense, that I couldn't take it any more. For a long time--years--I wanted to quit, but also wanted to drink. I've been sober over a month, and my anxiety is all but gone, and I don't hate myself anymore. This is so much better than drinking.
Hope you keep posting. This is a very supportive community.
I woke up this morning and I can't do this any more. I am so ashamed of myself. I am a perfectionist during the day and a wine lush at night. I panic when I do not have a box of wine in the house. I am so sick of waking up in a panic and trying to remember what I did the night before. I went out for a ladies night last night. We went to a lovely restaurant and I had on a cute new outfit. It always seems so normal and so happy. I don't know many women who do not drink wine. But there is nothing lovely about loosing my credit card and my phone and not remembering the end of the night. I can't take it any more.
I hope your doing okay and just keep reading here. It really helps me knowing that most here understand.
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Hi Carejoy, you are not alone. I lead the most pristine life during the day but was getting smashed with wine every single night. I find SR to be extremely supportive and helpful and I hope you do too.
I loved wine for a long time too... funny enough over the last several years I hardly ever drank wine anymore. It was mostly vodka. Mostly straight.
You're making the right choice stopping this mad carriage ride now.... before it gets worse.
Welcome.
You're making the right choice stopping this mad carriage ride now.... before it gets worse.
Welcome.
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Carejoy,
For the longest I thought I was the only one who got drunk and did silly or embarrassing things that I did not remember the next day. I too drink at home alone usually, but with phones and the internet still plenty of opportunity for embarrassment. First, don't beat yourself up or feel too ashamed, that just spurs a desire to drink to forget about it. Second, as soberclover said, remember these things as reasons not to drink. Actually, you may want to keep a journal of each and every indiscretion, in detail with dates, as our drinking brain likes to erase these memories and only remember the many good times of the past to keep us drinking - we all have good drinking memories we want to repeat or we wouldn't be drinking despite problems it causes. I can remember many times that I told myself the next day "If I could only truly remember this feeling and embarrassment, I wouldn't drink again". But that agony is so easy to rationalize and forget by the next evening. Hang in there, best wishes.
For the longest I thought I was the only one who got drunk and did silly or embarrassing things that I did not remember the next day. I too drink at home alone usually, but with phones and the internet still plenty of opportunity for embarrassment. First, don't beat yourself up or feel too ashamed, that just spurs a desire to drink to forget about it. Second, as soberclover said, remember these things as reasons not to drink. Actually, you may want to keep a journal of each and every indiscretion, in detail with dates, as our drinking brain likes to erase these memories and only remember the many good times of the past to keep us drinking - we all have good drinking memories we want to repeat or we wouldn't be drinking despite problems it causes. I can remember many times that I told myself the next day "If I could only truly remember this feeling and embarrassment, I wouldn't drink again". But that agony is so easy to rationalize and forget by the next evening. Hang in there, best wishes.
Hi Carejoy - so good to meet you.
I was relieved too when I joined here & knew I wasn't alone in this. No one in my life had the same problem. Most friends could take it or leave it. Everyone had an 'off' switch - I didn't. Instead of admitting the problem - like you are - I went on for decades trying to control what I drank. I'm glad you've reached out for some help. You can do this.
I was relieved too when I joined here & knew I wasn't alone in this. No one in my life had the same problem. Most friends could take it or leave it. Everyone had an 'off' switch - I didn't. Instead of admitting the problem - like you are - I went on for decades trying to control what I drank. I'm glad you've reached out for some help. You can do this.
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