alphaomega

Golly gee jahosephats, tonight is worse than the holidays.

All I can think about is red zin. Bottles and bottles of scarlet red wine poured in beautiful long stemmed glasses.

I can't believe how triggered I am because of Valentines day.

****{shudder}}}

zerothehero

Have you read about urge surfing?

Accept the urge and the cravings. Like all thoughts and all feelings, it will pass. Ride it. Accept the feelings without giving in to them. Don't fight them; don't give them that power.

This, too, shall pass. Be compassionate and loving with yourself. You're okay. Drink some tea, or some juice and water. Maybe meditate or pray - find that source.

You know you'll be happier tomorrow (as long as you remain sober).

HeartsAfire

Just wanted you to know I love ya, AO.

Try reading this & see how you feel: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...night-lot.html

(((Hugs)))

mecanix

Hey AO ,
Keep on , I try to remember it is just another day to stay sober on before i add all the other "buttons and whistles" .

you've done loads of sober days before , you can do another one now ,

Bestwishes, m

Dee74

Steady on AO - it's just a day....
love doesn't come in bottles...yeah?

D

Hevyn

Misery comes in bottles. Just a few more hours and the dreaded V day will be history.

jaynie04

OK Buddy, time for a Twizzlers IV stat.

You.Can.Do.This.

Think about what the dregs of that wine used to look like the next morning congealing in the bottom of a glass. No way do you want to open the door to that crap again.

Eat a great dinner and treat yourself to a decadent deserve, guilt free, because you saved hundreds of calories by not having wine!

Anna

They're just feelings, and they don't have power over you. Just feel them and let them go. Hang in there!

bigsombrero

The forest creatures in Paraguay don't know it's Valentine's Day, they are just going about their business. As a fellow Earthling, show your solidarity with these animals tonight by going about your business also. We salute you, AO, for nobly standing with the Paraguayan creatures on this day.

readerbaby71

There was a time when I couldn't have imagined have a romantic valentine's dinner without champagne. It's taken me years to get here, but it is amazing how my way of thinking has changed. It was so, so hard to leave it behind at the time but now it is just not an option that I think of anymore.

Hang in there! It will pass. And you'll feel much stronger in your sobriety tomorrow. Every time you resist it gets easier.

GotGrace

Do you really want that headache tomorrow? And the guilt?

You can do this AO!

alphaomega

I just noticed that I didn't say I wanted a glass or two of wine.

I said I wanted "Bottles and bottles".

Think I'm cured yet ?

Dang.

jaynie04

rofl

freethinking

That was awesome, Bigsombrero!

EndGameNYC

In about forty minutes, it'll be February 15th here. Just another day, like February 14th.

I've long fielded more or less disturbing feelings on V-Day. Drunk or sober, happy or sad, alone or relationshipized. Never mattered.

The difference is that, today, I'm much more open to feeling my feelings instead of pushing them aside or analyzing them to my death.

It's a good thing to feel deeply. Not everyone can, and not everyone is willing to do so.

Tiptree

Hope you are feeling better today AO

alphaomega

Thanks Tiptree. Yes, bright eyed and bushy tailed on a lovely winter morning.

Having a little berries and raw almond butter, then off to meditate. . Ommmmmmm.

Thanks for the help last night my kindreds.

You all got me through another rough one.

XO AO

Raider

So glad you made it through. We all know how hard it is. You inspire me my friend.

JackieC

Ah, so well said. As I sat there last night on my couch alone, watching romantic comedies on cable where it seemed every scene was a couple drinking red wine together, I got so very sad. And felt so very alone. And cried and felt sorry for myself and wondered if I'd be unhappy forever. But here's why I love Endgame's post above so much -- I've been unhappy on Valentines Day for years and years. Lonely for years and years, especially within my marriage back when I was still married. But then I would drown the sadness, numb it away, pack it down. Last night, I felt all those lousy, crappy, lonely, self-pitying feelings right down to my very core -- not a sip to numb any of it. No packing it down! I hope and pray that this means it's coming out to stay out. I'm working through it instead of around it or over it. Starting a new Valentines-Day-sucks tradition. Ha!

readerbaby71

You did it! So glad you made it through. xo