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2Cor5:17
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Between Doctor's opinion & pg 164
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Welcome back
Scott stole my thunder but he's right. Now we move forward: is there an after plan in place? What step can we work on to continue where last left of? Any mtgs close to you?
Best wishes
Scott stole my thunder but he's right. Now we move forward: is there an after plan in place? What step can we work on to continue where last left of? Any mtgs close to you?
Best wishes
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,432
I had to change a lot of other things in my life apart from drinking...
drinking was all I did - it was at the heart of all my relationships - take that away and I had virtually nothing left.
If you're bored - try and think of hobbies or interests you had, or would like to take up.
If nothing appeals to you I found doing volunteer work was very good for me - it got me out of the house, it got me connecting with people, and it made me feel worthwhile too.
If you're lonely, my suggestions above might help too - or you could investigate meeting based recovery groups like AA or SMART?
What ever you decide there is one thing you need to get into your head - drinking won't help you feel any less lonely or any less bored.
Whatever the answers are for you, they lay ahead of you StayStrong, not behind you.
Drinking's been proved a failure....not you
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drinking was all I did - it was at the heart of all my relationships - take that away and I had virtually nothing left.
If you're bored - try and think of hobbies or interests you had, or would like to take up.
If nothing appeals to you I found doing volunteer work was very good for me - it got me out of the house, it got me connecting with people, and it made me feel worthwhile too.
If you're lonely, my suggestions above might help too - or you could investigate meeting based recovery groups like AA or SMART?
What ever you decide there is one thing you need to get into your head - drinking won't help you feel any less lonely or any less bored.
Whatever the answers are for you, they lay ahead of you StayStrong, not behind you.
Drinking's been proved a failure....not you
D
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: San Diego
Posts: 4,451
Yep, that was me, StayStrong. Boredom? Check. Loneliness? Check. Turning to the bottle as an escape? Check, check, check.
But you know what? It's just all part of the illusion of addiction, the cause masquerading as the cure. Like Dee said, it was the alcohol that had left all these voids in my life. It hadn't left a lot of time, energy, or ability for other interests and relationships. I thought quitting was an end, but it really was just the start. I had to fill the holes with other things—books, bikes, ukuleles... it's amazing the stuff I have time to mess around with now that I'm not drinking.
Maybe it would help to imagine your future self—what kinds of activities do you see yourself doing? What would be cool new things to try, or ways to grow and connect with new people?
The beauty of quitting is that you're free to explore a whole new life.
But you know what? It's just all part of the illusion of addiction, the cause masquerading as the cure. Like Dee said, it was the alcohol that had left all these voids in my life. It hadn't left a lot of time, energy, or ability for other interests and relationships. I thought quitting was an end, but it really was just the start. I had to fill the holes with other things—books, bikes, ukuleles... it's amazing the stuff I have time to mess around with now that I'm not drinking.
Maybe it would help to imagine your future self—what kinds of activities do you see yourself doing? What would be cool new things to try, or ways to grow and connect with new people?
The beauty of quitting is that you're free to explore a whole new life.
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 26,666
Hi StayStrong, I'm nodding to all the posts in front of me and wholeheartedly agree.
One hand was always tied up with a glass in it, you can't do much more after that.
Now you have two hands, go explore, the worlds your oyster.
One hand was always tied up with a glass in it, you can't do much more after that.
Now you have two hands, go explore, the worlds your oyster.
~sb
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: MD
Posts: 15,966
Define boredom then come up with things to replace that boredom with!
Loneliness can be combated by getting involved in activities with other people, clubs, hobbies, meetings, whatever else you can come up with!!
You CAN stay stopped, too!
Loneliness can be combated by getting involved in activities with other people, clubs, hobbies, meetings, whatever else you can come up with!!
You CAN stay stopped, too!
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: East Coast, USA
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Checking in
Feeling much better than this morning and thinking of a plan moving forward. My AV got the best of me when I realized we'd be shut in because of bad weather. My automatic reaction was to make a run to the liquor store. Lesson learned
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
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Hi StayStrong. I'm so glad you wanted to talk about what happened. That's progress, even though it doesn't feel like it. You aren't giving up - you're trying to figure out the best plan for you. I had to fail a few times before I finally got fed up and exhausted. You will do this.
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Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: Brooklyn, ny
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That would have been my natural reaction this time last year. And this winter would have given me so many great opportunities to indulge!, but just had a cup of green tea and ready to get on the treadmill so there goes that plan out the window lol!
Good for you keeping your AV at bay. Spring can't get here soon enough...
Good for you keeping your AV at bay. Spring can't get here soon enough...
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