Thoughts of Drinking
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Join Date: Dec 2013
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Thoughts of Drinking
Hi everyone. I don't know what's been going on with me the past couple of days, but I have been thinking to myself..."what if I just have a glass of wine and see what happens?" Why am I having these thoughts? I know what will happen if I have just one drink. I have been sober now for 78 days. Why would I want to ruin what I have worked so hard for? I went to the grocery store earlier tonight and I literally had a stare down with a bottle of wine. Normally, I can just walk right by the wine section. Why is this happening now? I don't want to have these thoughts! This disease is so frustrating!
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Those thoughts are very common waterscapes.
78 days is long enough for us to forget a little why we stopped drinking, but not really long enough for the gifts of sobriety to really manifest themselves yet.
sometimes it's just down to patience, or sometimes there's other factors....
yeah you already know what happens - we don't reset to a 'normie' default, no matter how much sober time we have, although most of us have wished we did.
are you stressed, bored, lonely, angry? Those kinds of things can be difficult to negotiate if the only tool we had was booze.
do you have any support apart from SR?
Have you made any changes to your life, besides not drinking?
D
78 days is long enough for us to forget a little why we stopped drinking, but not really long enough for the gifts of sobriety to really manifest themselves yet.
sometimes it's just down to patience, or sometimes there's other factors....
what if I just have a glass of wine and see what happens?"
are you stressed, bored, lonely, angry? Those kinds of things can be difficult to negotiate if the only tool we had was booze.
do you have any support apart from SR?
Have you made any changes to your life, besides not drinking?
D
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Ireland.
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Freedom resides in the fact that although we have the thoughts we do not have to act on them. Don't let them hijack you, your decision to remain sober & have a better life is your priority at times like this.
Stay strong.
Stay strong.
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: South East England
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Thoughts of drinking are normal in the early months..and sometimes they are really strong. The good news is, if you can get past them, they happen less and less the further you move away from the bottle.
What helped me was completely changing my routine. I identified trigger times, before dinner was a big one...cooking and drinking went hand in hand for me...so we ate at different times, or took turns with the cooking. I got busy, hit a meeting, spent hours on SR talking to others, went out and met up with friends (non-drinking).
But I didn't sit alone with those feelings, they were too strong. I needed reinforcements, and SR is the best place to find them
What helped me was completely changing my routine. I identified trigger times, before dinner was a big one...cooking and drinking went hand in hand for me...so we ate at different times, or took turns with the cooking. I got busy, hit a meeting, spent hours on SR talking to others, went out and met up with friends (non-drinking).
But I didn't sit alone with those feelings, they were too strong. I needed reinforcements, and SR is the best place to find them
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