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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Ohio
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What goals are you setting? If they are anything but remaining sober for 24 hours then maybe your goals are a little to high. One day at a time.
If I had set a goal in the beginning and said to myself I would stay sober for 30 days, I would not be here today.
If I had set a goal in the beginning and said to myself I would stay sober for 30 days, I would not be here today.
Sober since 10th April 2012
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Perth, Western Australia
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Hi Amit
Only you can avoid relapse. There isn't a magic formula. Think about what triggers you to start again, and come up with some strategies to get through that time.
Do you have support - going to meetings, seeing counsellors, family on board?
I bet you can work out what's going wrong, but you've got to want it more than anything.
Only you can avoid relapse. There isn't a magic formula. Think about what triggers you to start again, and come up with some strategies to get through that time.
Do you have support - going to meetings, seeing counsellors, family on board?
I bet you can work out what's going wrong, but you've got to want it more than anything.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,372
Yeah I know - I could.
I asked you specifically what you'd done for a reason tho
up til now your recovery approach has been pretty much just trying to stop, yeah?
if you're still struggling to get 2 weeks maybe you need a little more than that, amit?
D
I asked you specifically what you'd done for a reason tho
up til now your recovery approach has been pretty much just trying to stop, yeah?
if you're still struggling to get 2 weeks maybe you need a little more than that, amit?
D
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,372
you mean publicly pronouncing yourself an alcoholic?
Everyone else there will be there for the same reason and the Anonymous part of the name is there for good reason too amit.
If you don't want to call yourself an alcoholic then don't - but you clearly need some help right now....
The label is not as important as doing something about the problem.
D
Everyone else there will be there for the same reason and the Anonymous part of the name is there for good reason too amit.
If you don't want to call yourself an alcoholic then don't - but you clearly need some help right now....
The label is not as important as doing something about the problem.
D
Not again
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Central NY
Posts: 1,139
personally I don't see being 10 days clean and then using as a relapse. But then again I don't know what you were doing for those 10 days. I could sit in jail for a month or two without using and when I get out I would not relapse, but continue to use.
there are many facets to recovery. We can demonstate our recovery by changing people. places and things, but still hold the reservation to use. We can talk the talk, but remain in situations which will one day break our will and use again. And we can do many of these things but not change our hearts, believing a tempory shift will relieve us of the desire to use. It won't.
i found it neccessary to change, to continue to work for change, in order for the compulsion, the desire to leave me. And still, during times of duress, I find my mind drifting towards those old ideas. Because their easier, because their familiar, perhaps more comfortable. When I realize where my thoughts have gone I need to change them and for me the only thing that works is to think on God. Which is a peaceful, strengthing, safe, well-being place to be. I must avoid dwelling on reminiscing, resentments and mis-fortune. These thoughts cause me to seek the only comfort I ever knew, a comfort which is temporary. as I meditaite I find a peace that is always there, always available and never fails me.
If you are unsure how to bring about the changes neccessary for permanent sobriety I reccommend the program of AA, as spelled out in the 12 steps. It helped this recoveredcrackhead. I don't have a sponsor, as God giudes me when I chose to listen. And that is what makes all the difference for me. Although I needed to biuld up a trust, a belief, a faith in that which I could not see, touch or feel until I learned to recognize that which is.
i wish you much luck in your journey.
Be well,
Larry
there are many facets to recovery. We can demonstate our recovery by changing people. places and things, but still hold the reservation to use. We can talk the talk, but remain in situations which will one day break our will and use again. And we can do many of these things but not change our hearts, believing a tempory shift will relieve us of the desire to use. It won't.
i found it neccessary to change, to continue to work for change, in order for the compulsion, the desire to leave me. And still, during times of duress, I find my mind drifting towards those old ideas. Because their easier, because their familiar, perhaps more comfortable. When I realize where my thoughts have gone I need to change them and for me the only thing that works is to think on God. Which is a peaceful, strengthing, safe, well-being place to be. I must avoid dwelling on reminiscing, resentments and mis-fortune. These thoughts cause me to seek the only comfort I ever knew, a comfort which is temporary. as I meditaite I find a peace that is always there, always available and never fails me.
If you are unsure how to bring about the changes neccessary for permanent sobriety I reccommend the program of AA, as spelled out in the 12 steps. It helped this recoveredcrackhead. I don't have a sponsor, as God giudes me when I chose to listen. And that is what makes all the difference for me. Although I needed to biuld up a trust, a belief, a faith in that which I could not see, touch or feel until I learned to recognize that which is.
i wish you much luck in your journey.
Be well,
Larry
Not again
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Central NY
Posts: 1,139
PS:
Well I guess we are all up now, I'm on the east coast (U.S.) it's 6:50 am. There was only 2 post when I started my response and about 10 when I posted it.
Nice...up and at them
Be Well,
Larry
Well I guess we are all up now, I'm on the east coast (U.S.) it's 6:50 am. There was only 2 post when I started my response and about 10 when I posted it.
Nice...up and at them
Be Well,
Larry
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