Sweetfa

So I broke up with my bf on Thursday and have heard nothing since. I'm just sat here wondering what trouble he's getting himself into.
Usually I would text his mum, but I deleted her number too when I realised she was enabling him.
I have no intention of resuming the relationship, but it doesn't stop you worrying, does it?

BoxinRotz

Usually, when you sever a relationship, silence is the outcome for most.

You must remember that he survived without you, before you... he'll survive without you, after you.

You may not like what I'm about to tell you but... Mind your own business!!!
You left him for obvious good reasons or you'd of never left him. You're now on your side of the street. Stay on your side of the street!

Sweetfa

I understand what you're saying. The worry is natural though I guess. Not much I can do to stop it right now.
I was just thinking aloud.

graceandbeauty0

pray for him. It's hard if they're still actively using when you've separated yourself from them. You will always worry because you loved them and care about them and of course you always want them to get clean. But now that you're separated start working on you. Look at yourself and see what you did and how you are, because i've seen a lot of women who leave their alcoholics and start dating someone new and it's just another alcoholic. There's something about us that attract them to us and until you work out any issues you may have way before you met him, it's a likely chance you'll meet another one. Good luck and keep praying for you and him for guidance and strength.

marie1960

Well it's natural to be concerned about those we care for.

I have also learned worrying is not going to change the outcome.

Just as your life is yours, his life is his.

His actions = his consequences.

You made a responsible and very wise choice for yourself, and yes, there will be an adjustment period.

Do something today, that your future self will thank you for.

Remember, there is zero quality of life with an active addict.

Sweetfa

Thanks Grace, I will

Sweetfa

Thanks Marie. I know why I made the choice and I know it's the right one. Time to work on me.
I think I just wanted to say how I feel. It's hard to say it to friends who already disliked the relationship.

dandylion

Sweetfa----It is perfectly o.k. to vent and say what you feel, here!!! Everyone needs a place where they can speak honestly.

dandylion