seeking advice...help
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seeking advice...help
My bf,of 15 yrs,father of two kids is addicted to h. Two weeks been going to methadone clinic,and yet he still has been using. Sniffing. Now smoking it. Im livinh w him ...in his ...our?...newly owned house....only due to recent sudden death of his father. ..hes inherited house and alot of money ....he sys its his money and he going to spend it as he wishes and for me to go back to work. We have one year old and three year old kids...hes going to be starting a ankel monitor probation thing at home soon due to a third d.u.i...just hapoenedbefore his fathets death.....hes driving arpund ina truck he bought frw weeks ago,under my name....he wants to watch kids while he on probation and i work.....i know what i have to do.....leav. ...i need to leave. ......i still love him tho...
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I ask for money for foid...and basics...diapers....he complains at me and gets agressive saying its his money and i neef to work.....when hes spending thousands on his addiction. And crap...like stacks of dvds...video games....crap...i just dont know......im just venting sorry
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I'm so, so sorry for you and your babies. It's probably the worst time ever for your BF, a heroin addict, to inherit a bunch of money, especially with the attitude that he will "spend it as he pleases."
Of course you love him. You wouldn't be posting here if you didn't. It's probably good advice to take from him to find a job. Unfortunately, you can't depend on an addict... For anything.
And especially not to watch your kids.
You already know what you're going to do, it's just a matter of time. Do you have friends or family nearby that you can stay with for awhile?
I'm so sorry that you are going through this. My husband is also an H addict and it took me leaving the state to get him into (early) recovery.
You gotta do what's best for 1) the kids and 2) YOU. He is on his own, unless or until he chooses recovery.
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
Of course you love him. You wouldn't be posting here if you didn't. It's probably good advice to take from him to find a job. Unfortunately, you can't depend on an addict... For anything.
And especially not to watch your kids.
You already know what you're going to do, it's just a matter of time. Do you have friends or family nearby that you can stay with for awhile?
I'm so sorry that you are going through this. My husband is also an H addict and it took me leaving the state to get him into (early) recovery.
You gotta do what's best for 1) the kids and 2) YOU. He is on his own, unless or until he chooses recovery.
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
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Sounds like you know what you need to do....despite how much you love him.
You will find peace once you are living separate from him as it is never peaceful living with the addict.
Get a job and perhaps if there is money left you can ask for child support.
You will find peace once you are living separate from him as it is never peaceful living with the addict.
Get a job and perhaps if there is money left you can ask for child support.
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It brings tears ti my eyes knowing peope care.........im staying withhim tho....i know its maybe not what i should. ...but hes. My soulmate......he needs me....but,....the kids make me want to leave.....they dont need to see him like this....,,,,,hes not and would never hurt us tho.....hes soon gping to be on a stay home probation thinf....and i think drug trsting will be done....im concernef about moid swings and depression....wjen he gets off h or tries to...he gets very sad....and on top of it hasnt dealt with his dads loss yet....he just went furthet into h.....i have to have a drink when kids asleep....sorry for spelling....
He would never hurt you but I sense a whole lot of hurt in your post. You won't leave because he needs you but the kids are pulling you in a different direction.
Are you going to sacrifice your children to this man? He does not need you. He needs his drugs and his $$$ and according to him, YOU NEED A JOB!
His drug use is running the show and you're letting it run your life. You can stop the nightmare at any time by saving your children and yourself and in a way, he is right... you will need a job.
I'm sorry you are hurting but he's never going to change until he is ready. You desever more and so do those babies.
Are you going to sacrifice your children to this man? He does not need you. He needs his drugs and his $$$ and according to him, YOU NEED A JOB!
His drug use is running the show and you're letting it run your life. You can stop the nightmare at any time by saving your children and yourself and in a way, he is right... you will need a job.
I'm sorry you are hurting but he's never going to change until he is ready. You desever more and so do those babies.
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